(Closed) The logistics of un-seperating?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

I think as long as you aren’t stiffing her with the rent, it’s not a big deal. Just explain that you are moving back in with your husband and will be looking for someone to take over the lease. I would just give herr some say on who moves in to make sure she’s ok with living with them for several months. 

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper

There’s nothing for you to feel bad about!  Your relationship with your husband comes first.  And, if she’s been privy to any of the details of your situation, will likely be more than happy to learn of your reconciliation.  You aren’t leaving her high and dry – you are paying the bills and continuing to contribute to the obligations of your lease.  Is there some other reason that would cause you to feel bad?  

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Honestly,  I think you’re being very reasonable about the situation.  I know some people that would just walk away and say, “Too bad, so sad.”  I say, sit down and talk to her about it, telling her everything you told us.  Honestly, as long as you’re still paying your portion of the rent until it can be taken over by someone (and honestly, I would let her have a say in who the new roomie is), I think she’ll be understanding.  Besides, that means she gets her own place for a little while without it costing her more.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

dont feel bad! its great you are ready to live with your husband again. i would talk to your roomate about it now and get the ball in motion for march. explain to her what you have explained to us and i am sure she will understand. i will agree with PP about letting her have imput into who moves in. she may have a frined needing a place by that time? i tihnk as long as you dont just up and bail on her leaving her with the full ammount of rent due you should be fine. its actually pretty common for people to take over another persons lease so that should not be an issue. just because you are moving out also doesnt mean you cant still be friends!

 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I agree with the PP – as long as you can find someone to sublet, your situation is really understandable. I mean, you are moving in with your husband, it’s not like you were looking for some different and random place to live. As long as she isn’t financially responsible and finds a roomate she can tolerate, I don’t see the problem. 

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper

It sounds like she will be more than understanding and likely continue to be a friend and support!  I would commuicate with her how much you’ve appreciated her both as a roommate and friend, as you tell her of your decision to move back in with Darling Husband.  Good luck to you both as you continue to work on your relationship!  It IS exciting and wonderful!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I agree with pp, nothing wrong with you moving into Darling Husband place again right now as long as you continue to pay on your apt! And congrats on working things out!

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