(Closed) the Love Dare with FI

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Ohh what is this?  I don’t know of it, but I’m intrigued.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

We aren’t having a rough patch or anything luckily, but even if we were hubby probably wouldn’t read anything like this because he absolutely HATES reading. Seriously, he has the attention span of a gnat when it comes to reading lol.

The pastor gave us 2 workbook thingies to read/fill out together and discuss when we went in for pre-marital counseling (he only required us to come in once so there was no “follow up” on our “homework”) and we never even opened them because hubby hates reading! I really wanted to do them, but oh well πŸ˜›

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Wow, this sounds totally neat.  We could probably use something like that, is it in like, borders/barnes and noble? 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Neat!  Thank youu!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I don’t know if you’ve seen the movie “Fireproof”, but it’s by the people who wrote the book.SUPER cheesy, but it even says in there that the beginning is slow. i think it’s more to get people into it? it gets real interesting like, 15-20 days in.

my mom actually is running the bible study at my church for this book, so she’s told me all about it. i know my cousin did it when her husband almost left her, and they’re still together, so it must work πŸ™‚

edit: oh haha you just said you hadn’t seen the movie. once again – CHEESY. only plus is kirk cameron from growing pains, but he’s a jerk in the movie so even that’s not so great.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Another really great book is “The Hard Questions”. It has questions for couples to start conversations with like, “Would you rather have a large home or go on a vacation every year?”, “What if one of you wants to work less at some point in the future?”, etc.

It was very helpful for us.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

It’s so funny to me that you brought this up. My SIL gave my husband and I the “Love Dare” book and “Fireproof” as a wedding present. A few months ago we hit a rough patch and were fighting a lot. We decided to watch a movie one night and my husband suggested Fireproof, more or less as a joke… but we ended up watching it and it was so hilarious. Sorry to anyone who actually liked the movie, but we just thought is was so cheesy, and so beyond bad… and we had so much fun making fun of it, that it really helped us smooth things over.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@northernazbride – haha i can see how that would happen. i watched it at my church for moral support for my parents, and it was just old people who were KILLING themselves with laughter.

okay. maybe not literally killing themselves. πŸ˜›

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

As long as you’re making a list of books to read, add “101 Things I Wish I Knew When I Got Married” by Linda and Charlie Bloom on there.  I just checked it out from the library and started reading today, but it’s very good so far.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

My husband and I read “For Women Only” and “For Men Only” right after the honeymoon, and those two books were great! I’d totally recommend them. They are from a Christian perspective which I enjoyed. I learned more from those two books than any others. The author’s last name is Feldham, I think her first name is Shauni or Shauna. SO SO Good!

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2010

We’re doing the Love Dare now. I wouldn’t say we were “in a rough patch” but we were having a difficult time adjusting to living together, and being 2 months away from the wedding we were super stressed (also we have a new puppy) and were taking our stress out on each other. I agree that it’s a little harder if you’re not in a fairly rough place in your relationship. We often thing the dares are kind of silly (feels more like they’re asking you to do chores for each other than learn to love each other better), so we try to take the deeper meaning, and use it as a way to keep the message in mind. Sometimes we don’t even do the actual dare, but reinterpret to something we feel is more meaningful and in line with the message of that day. We have actually found it really hard to do together, because you’re both trying to do the same task, and surprise each other at the same time, so we both are expecting that thing. It’s kind of confusing as to whether you’re supposed to do it together, or only one person is supposed to do it… Does anyone else have that issue? I agree Fireproof was SO cheesy!

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