Post # 1
Perhaps this belongs in the Mother-In-Law section but for hilarity’s sake lets put it here.
My girls are picking their own dresses from J. Crew, in a color determined by me and a fabric determined by my MoH. They are not cheap dresses, and even though I believe that they can wear them again, I wanted to be sure that their gifts were something that could absolutely be a treasure forever and of approximately equal value to the dress. Consequently– I went to Tiffany. Since all of the dresses have a different neckline, one of them can’t be worn with a necklace at all, and all of the girls look different I decided that everyone should have a unique piece and that they should be able to pick them themselves (because it’s always about the bride, it seems like a “pick a piece of jewelry from Tiffany’s” trip is a good thank you).
I took my future SIL yesterday. She was trying to decide between two beautiful things, both of which looked great on her. She called her mother for input.
“Well, really the only thing that would look good is a string of pearls, so why don’t you just wear pearls and the jewelry can be your thank-you gift for being in the wedding”
I’m sorry…have I totally missed something about the bridesmaids gift?????? Are they just a wedding party favor????
Post # 3
- Wedding: July 2012 - Catholic Church
The Bridesmaid or Best Man gifts are there to thank them for being in your wedding and sticking with you during such a special time. I think pick-your-own Tiffany’s Jewellery is a lovely idea for a thank-you gift. It makes it more special to each of them. The gifts are definitely not just a wedding party favour.
Post # 4
Can I be one of your bridesmaids!!! I would love to give my girls something so amazing and thoughtful. They will fully understand that it is their thank you gift- but if you wanted you could have them all pick out what they like and then hold on to them until the rehersal dinner and present them as a gift. Just a thought. Otherwise a nice thank you note the night before the wedding would be nice.
Post # 5
Ooops, I didn’t explain correctly!
The reason I am getting them each a different thing is because all of their dresses are different…but Future Mother-In-Law wants Future Sister-In-Law to NOT wear the “gift” in the wedding and just keep it as a souvineer!! Well, in that case, why bother getting everyone different pieces of jewelry?!
Post # 6
I think you should politely tell your Future Mother-In-Law that the gift is a souvineer, but something you would really like worn in the wedding. It is your wedding and you should have a say in what jewelry they wear. If Future Sister-In-Law doesnt want to wear what you are getting her, tell her she has to get a different peice of Tiffany’s jewelry (on her dime) to wear- so that she will match the rest of the girls in that aspect.
Post # 7
Normally I would say jewelry to be worn on the big day is not really a thank you gift because the girls may not wear it again, but Tiffany’s jewelry is a whole different ball game. This should be considered both part of the wedding attire and their gift. The fact that you are letting each girl pick out their own unique piece makes it something more than just a necklace that five other girls got. Don’t listen to your Future Mother-In-Law. You can ask the girls to wear the jewelry for the wedding. This will probably help off set their costs, because they don’t have to buy specific jewelry to go with their bridesmaid dresses.
Post # 8
I am mostly tempted to say “FMIL, If DSIL needs a “souvineer” of the wedding, I will take her a picture postcard. This gift is meant as something beautiful that she picked out (and didn’t have to pay for unlike other bridal stuff) to wear in the wedding AND to be a lasting reminder of the day”
Seriously Future Mother-In-Law…I realize you have an ASTONISHING jewelry collection..but maybe can Tiffany’s be nice enough for Future Sister-In-Law for one day?