Post # 32
+1000. If you don’t like what someone is saying, isn’t it easier to just ignore them and not engage than to get all indignant and make similarly annoying threads?
And, for the record, diamonds get a fair amount of backhanded hate on this board as well, including the comments about “wasting thousands of dollars” on diamonds and all of the various iterations of “blood diamonds” and “ethical sourcing” discussions. Any thread highlighting a person’s decision about anything is open to comments, both positive and negative. If you don’t like it, don’t post on message boards.
Post # 33
I will never understand how someone could be so opposed to the use of a certain stone in engagement rings. To me, it seems.that moissy is targeted more than cz/ashas. It’s like the bees who stir the pot on moissy threads have a very deep commitment to bringing moissanite down. Maybe a moissanite dumped them on their birthday? They were fired by a moissanite? Boyfriend ran off with a moissanite..there has to be a deep, emotional reason to be so fired up about a sparkly.
It makes me sad that someone with questions about moissanite can’t just start a thread to get answers without drama. There should be a ‘warning” pop up when you type “moissanite” into the text box for a new post.
Post # 34
- Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID
I completely agree with everything in this thread. However, I can think of numerous times on the Bee that I’ve seen people be put down for getting a diamond, and moissy owners have acting the exact same way as the people that you’re describing.
Post # 35
When talking about shiny rocks, everyone sucks. I think the sparkles addle our brains.
Post # 36
I just find it interesting that the biggest divide seems to come down to Moissy vs diamond. No one is calling out girls on the China replica dress threads about being “cheap” or having something “less than the original”. But some people just need to make sure you know your sim is inferior to the almighty diamond. And ladies, it’s a jewel, if you keep calling Moissy a gem someone might report you to the fashion police!
Post # 37
I completely agree that diamonds get their fair share of flack too. and it shouldnt be so. all bees have the right to celebrate their choice of ring without continual judgement for thier choice of stone. the thing is, can you recall any moissy owners who continually go out of their way to post on a bees thread about her diamond ring and say, its a very nice stone… for the cost of a childs leg or life… or I cant believe you paid x amount of dollars for that shone when you could have got this….
its just so sad that threads related to moissanite more often than not get closed because of a very very select amount of bees continue to stir the pot and eventually another bee gets sick of the b.s and snaps. Ive unfortunately bitten, as have quite a few bees who are moissy owners. It just so sad that these bees feel the need to be so defensive because they are continually attacked; and as a result end up getting reported for it.
Post # 38
Honestly who gives a shit? I can think of three problem bees when it comes to moissy. One claims to have the most beautiful and unique ring that contains an enormous amount of symbolism in its design but se won’t post it because its “too unique” and someone might identify her. (Going back in her posts you’ll see that she considered moissy, but now will only accept stones “as genuine as she is”. Her whole attitude is phony.) Another bee always tears down moissy, but if you go back in her posts she was debating between moissy and asha because they were broke. Now she has a huge ring that she claims is a diamond because suddenly she makes 6-figures. And the last has never posted a ring either and does mothing but bash moissanite. Who cares what these girls think? Even if the accounts are real the people themselves all seem very fake. Why get upset about your ENGAGEMENT RING, you know, that gift from your fiance symbolizing your eternal love, over these anonymous and in all liklihood miserable people.
Post # 39
- Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL
+1000. This is so true and I think this is what OP was getting at.
Yes, both moissy and diamonds have “pro” and “con” lists which probably change depending on the person. The thing is that there aren’t moissy proponents that go to every diamond e-ring or newly engaged thread and bash diamond girls. Sometimes when diamond girls come to the moissy threads and hate on moissys, yes we get defensive and that’s where our “cons of diamonds comes out” but we don’t intentionally go around putting other girls down for their rings. I know one bee that will rip other bees to shreds just for taking a picture of a non-tiffany’s ring on a T&Co box. So what? Moissy bees don’t go lurking on T&Co ring threads and tear the girls apart bc they paid a markup for their ring. Why is it ok to tear us apart for spending less on something?
I just think it’s weird bc I was 100% set on getting a moissy before I even knew about the bee. I found out about the bee while doing research on moissy. Now that I have a moissy and have spent a lot of time on the bee, I feel more self conscious about my ring than I ever did. People will say “who gives a shit what other bees think?” But for me, I’m someone who cares a lot about how others perceive me and like I said in a PP the flack moissy gets on the boards here is actually starting to affect my confidence IRL, which is pretty lame.
Post # 41
I don’t post in Tiffany threads because Tiffany isn’t my thing, but I’ve seen people get nasty in them for no reason too.
Post # 42
Where did you hear about moissy? I had my ring long before joining this site as well, and i originally heard about it on Offbeat Bride after searching for unique engagement rings. I wanted a unique gemstone, Fiance wanted to get me a diamond, so we argued and researched for 9 months before settling on moissy with sapphire side stones. Then when I came to the bee i was pleasantly shocked by how popular moissy is.
Post # 43
I am going to go ahead and close this thread. We don’t allow threads to talk about other members. If you have concerns about another member, please flag the thread and the moderation team look into it.
Post # 44
- Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL
A coworker of mine found a setting she fell in love with while visiting her home state over xmas break. The setting was really expensive and she and her Fiance couldn’t afford a diamond for the setting if they decided to get it, so some how she found out about moissy (I’m really not sure how she found out about it, or if she had already known about it and had set out looking for settings in the first place or what). She told me about getting a moissy center stone and I was like “I’ve never heard of that, could you please explain??”
After my coworker told me a little about moissy I set off on my own research endevour. The bee was my main source of info, as well as the BTD forums so I could see pics of it. A few weeks later, her unenhanced ring came in and once I saw hers in person I was sold! There are 4 girls in our office, 2 have diamonds and the 2 of us have moissys. We are all engineers, so one night when we got together with another lab, (before I was engaged) someone asked her about her ring and she told them about moissanite. The whole table was abuzz (in a good way). Everyone at works knows that my ring is a moissanite and they can’t get over how beautiful both of our rings are. We’ve compared them side by side to our friends diamonds and there is a definite difference but I think we all have really gorgeous rings. One of the diamond girls says she “wishes she would’ve known about moissy because she is a vegan and it fits in better with her lifestyle”