- 7 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
Just wondering ladies (sorry, it’s a bit of a random/emotional post)….
Do any of you have moms that aren’t, well, the type that gush over your engagement or wedding? All these years, my mom always knew I was going to marry the man I’m with, but she probably didn’t expect us to get engaged while we are almost done with college. I have no idea. As adults, it is our life, our journey, our decision. Just struggling with wanting more loving support. I won’t go into details for your sake!
My question is:
Where do you find support and how can you include a mom in the wedding who expects to be included but isn’t the most supportive of your choices/ideas/plans? I’d rather do things by myself and keep everything a surprise, but I don’t want to hurt her feelings. I have decided to shop for my wedding dress soon with my grandma (I am closer to her) or by myself. I don’t want any dress drama or wedding planning drama. I am stuck, ladies! Trying to make everyone happy all the time isn’t going to work. I try to tell her about details but she’s often negative and sort of harsh about it all. I’ve decided to keep the wedding planning private for the sake of getting along with my mom. Help!
~I know moms just always want to be moms no matter how young or old we are, but I want her to be here for me. I do find a tremendous amount of support in my sisters, my grandma, my future mother-in-law, my bridesmaids, and above all my incredible husband-to-be!
FYI: My parents divorced when I was 5, and it’s always been difficult to, you know, get the family together and up to date about everything. Mom recently re-married and has her own family now. Just feel like it’s my time to shine & I’m not getting the reaction I’d like.
Thanks, Bees. It’s a little emotional, I know, with lots of family problems growing up and still today, but I would love some advice if you’ve got any on how I can appropriately include her–because, afterall, I love her incredibly and she’s always going to be my mother!
Anyone else experiencing/experienced this before?