Post # 1
When did you realise you wanted to spend the rest of your life with your partner? I know it sounds like a corny question (I’m in a hopeless romantic mood) but between all the real life things that happen daily (washing, cleaning, work, financial stress, car problems, illness) I’d love to hear how people realised that their SO’s were the ones they wanted to spend their lives with.
Post # 3
I love this thread! Ok SO, I have known my husband for 15 years and in that time he’s usually been either in love with me or taking time away because rejection. We attempted to date twice some years apart and it never worked out. Anyway, I went to visit him after not seeing him for years (lived across the country from each other). As my leave date approached I noticed I started feeling…sad. On the very last day of my trip, at sunset, we stopped at an overlook. It was a gorgeous view of ocean and pine trees and he walked off to take pictures and I had a moment alone. I started to feel incredibly depressed and it just hit me – this was something special and I did not want to go home. The next few months were a whirlwind of talking on the phone all the time, back and forth visits, my asking him for a relationship, telling him I loved him, making plans to move across the country. But I will always remember that moment at the overlook when I just KNEW.
Post # 3
love this ❤️ I find the whole idea of love so beautiful and fascinating. Yours sounds like the perfect moment, just amazing!
Post # 4
this should be pitched to someone as a romcom movie. It would make a great movie.
Post # 5
It was love at first sight for us, but marriage first entered my mind when he wanted to go to a kids’ science museum for a date and literally be Frank Sinatra down some stairs that lit up and played music notes. He danced up and down those stairs and made all the kids laugh.
I knew immediately then that I was going to marry him 🙂
Post # 6
Omg thank you! Actually when you consider that we lived and traveled in different places in the world together during those 15 years it would probably be a fun movie!
Post # 8
- Wedding: October 2020 - Concord, Ontario
I’m also a hopeless romantic. We dated for 2 years before we got engaged I knew she was the one when she gave me a foot massage and she’s not a foot person at all
Post # 9
My fiance and I met online randomly when we commented on the same post on reddit. We replied to each others comments a few times before continuing the conversation in private. Everything about this was anonymous, we talked and messaged online and very slowly shared more about ourselves (it was at least 6 months before we knew each others first names). Crazily enough, we were the same age and lived in the same city.
After about a year of this, we decided to meet in person. I remember getting off the train and we walked up to each other. He looked at me and said “you’re beautiful” then hugged me. For a full year I had only messaged him, talked to him on the phone, and seen photos of him. But being wrapped up in his arms straight away felt like home. Almost 6 years after that moment and being in his arms is still my safe place.
Post # 10
oh I love this! So so sweet 🙂
Post # 11
We knew after dating for about 3 months.
My husband is 5 years older and when we met we both wanted to settle down. I think I was super attracted to the fact that he wasn’t afraid of marriage or kids. He also had an education, good career, a nice apartment, car, pets, etc. He told me that unlike his previous girlfriends, he didn’t feel the need to provide for me. I was in college, working, lived on my own, had my own car, etc. We both liked that we were completely independent and self sufficient however, we both wanted a partner.
Probably after two months or so we also noticed that politically/morally/socially our values lined up which is super rare. We feel the same on a lot which makes you feel like you always have someone to go to that will feel the same way.
I honestly think it was 3 months where we knew we’d get married. We started talking engagement at around a year and got engaged at the 2 1/2 year mark. Married at 3 1/2 year mark 🙂
Post # 12
- Wedding: March 2020 - SF, CA
On our first trip together. We had our first date at the end of May, made it official in the middle of June, then took a trip together at the end of July to Seattle. We had so much fun exploring the city and he was so patient with all the annoyances that come with travel. He was an amazing travel companion. On the way to the airport to go home, I told him I’d never felt like this about someone. He said it felt different with me than it had with anyone else before.
That trip was the moment I knew that he was it for me. We’d only said I love you two weeks before, but everything with him just fit. It all clicked into place so effortlessly. He’s my last fist kiss, my last first time, my last first “I love you,” my last first everything. When I realized that, I felt so at home and comfortable. Feels good finding your person.
Post # 13
We were out for the day just a few months into our relationship and we passed a travel agent with a poster for the Galapagos islands. I stopped and said “that’s always been my dream trip since I was a child” and he replied “We’ll go there on our honeymoon.” I was stunned because marriage hadnt crossed my mind at all at that stage, but I distinctly remember thinking “Wow, I want to keep him.” It was something in the blase tone and uncomplicated attitute about making my dreams a reality and doing it together…and the assumption that we were gonna work long term. He was way ahead of me but I’ve caught up all these years later.
Post # 14
I just have to contribute. I love reading all of these!
I knew the day I met him. I was two weeks into my junior year of college and had gotten out of a long-term relationship not too long before. I remember telling my mom on the phone one day that I was looking forward to getting to know myself and being single for a while. That same afternoon, I met a friend of his who just knew we’d hit it off. She gave him my number and he called me that same week. We agreed to meet up after class one day.
We sat on a bench in the middle of campus and I rambled on and on because I was so nervous. He looked like his eyes were glazing over and I was sure he was bored out of his mind. But when there was a break in the conversation, he proceeded to repeat back to me everything I told him about my family. He had been paying attention the whole time.
He held out his hand to help me up from the bench, and we held hands all the way back to the dorms. During that walk, I distinctly “felt” a voice whispering, “He’s the one you’ll marry.” We were inseparable from that moment on.
That was twenty-six years ago. We’ll be married twenty-three years this year. 😊
Post # 15
- Wedding: February 2018 - UK
I don’t know that I can pinpoint an exact moment. When we first started dating, I was very guarded. My previous boyfriend had been emotionally abusive and then cheated on me, so I was really cautious about not letting that happen again. My now-husband was so nice and thoughtful that I kept thinking it was an act that would eventually slip.
After a while, I realised he was genuine, and I became a lot calmer and more settled. One day my friend said “you seem really good together, like it’s going to be long term. Can you see yourself marrying him?”. I thought about it and realised that yes, I totally could. It was the first time I’d really thought about it, but it just felt like it was the obvious outcome, that this was clearly it.