Post # 1
So 3.5 weeks after my wedding, the more I look at photos, the more I’m starting to hate my dress! I know that I probably bought my dress too early (a year before the wedding) and I’ve had a fair bit of dress regret in wishing I had tried on more styles, but overall, I’ve been pretty happy with my dress.
Well, now that I’m looking at guest photos of the day, I’m realizing that my dress is really rather unflattering in a LOT of the photos! I never thought about the pleats in the dress before and how they could be unflattering – they never were in real life so I never thought about it with pics. But now that I look at these pictures, I feel as though the dress makes me look thick waisted and rather heavy in the midsection area…. It makes me so bummed because I take pride in the fact that I live a healthy lifestyle to maintain a relatively trim figure and now when I look back on these photos, all I can see is how unflattering this dress is. It really makes me dread getting my pro photos back…. 🙁
So, I know I sound a bit ridiculous in this post – I’ve attached photos to show what I’m talking about. The first two are photos that I think are fairly representative of how I always thought the dress looked in real life, and the last photo is how the dress is photographing in the vast majority of the photos I’ve seen. Has anyone else had this where you’ve hated the way your dress looks after the fact? Tell me I’m not the only crazy one! I’m so happy to be married to the love of my life but am going to be so bummed if our pictures all look like this.
And now the unflattering one…
Post # 3
Ok… guest photos are notoriously bad. That’s why we hire pro photographers.
I think that photo you posted is really just a matter of you standing in front of a white wall, with your arm in a position that it kind of looks like everything between your arm is your body.
It’s simply one bad optical illusion. I’m sure there will be PLENTY of photos from your photographer that you love.
Post # 4
Well I think you look just fine!
The reason the last one looks “wider” in the waist area is because your right arm is making that tiny gap showing the white wall through it, and the wall is melding into your waistline, making it look like you have no shape. But I just put my thumb over that ilttle blip of wall and you look just as trim as in the first photos!
Also, non-professional flash makes “shiny” fabric (satin and taffeta) look horrid because it’s so harsh…your pro pics, if they used flash at all, will be much better because the use a diffused flash and often times a softbox to diffuse and soften the flash even further.
Post # 5
@SapphireSun: Haha see, you saw the same thing about the wall as me! OP, don’t worry yourself over the guest photos…your pro pics will look beautiful, I’m sure.
Post # 6
I think you look beautiful in your dress! Don’t let the guest photos get to you too much. I think most of it is the lighting and the angle they shot that photo at. I hate when a flash mutes the lines on a dress. You might be able to play with the guest photos in a photo editor and sharpen them up a bit.
Post # 7
You look great. As other people have said, its an optical illusion. You are also slouching a little bit in the ‘unflattering’ photo compared to the others where your mid section was long and lean which can also make a huge difference
On a side note… how did you go with a wrist loop over the course of the day? I am considering one as I dont like bustles 🙂
Post # 8
No wonder I love the bee so much – you girls are awesome. Thank you so much for making me feel better…. you are all right, I am sure the professional pictures will be much better. I didn’t really think too much about the correct flash and proper angles that our photogs would have used; I just panicked when looking at these pictures, hoping I didn’t really look that bad on the day!
Thanks girls, I’m going to put my insecurities aside now and wait for the pro pics, hoping for the best! 🙂
Post # 9
@Bears-bub: LOL, I’m always being told to stop slouching! I only used the wrist loop during our photo session as we had all of our photos done before the wedding. Once the ceremony was over, I bustled my dress. It was ok for carrying the train for that short period of time, but honestly, I wouldn’t have wanted to do it all night. Every time I dropped my train for a photo, it was a bit of a mission to find the wrist loop again to move on to the next spot. Also, I think it would be hard to dance with, but it probably depends on how big/heavy your train is.
Post # 10
Well I think your dress is beautiful! As others have said, guest pics aren’t going to be great, so wait until you see your pro shots. I hate every picture taken of me, except some senior pictures I have from 2004. People who know what they are doing, know how to make you look your best. Guests just want to capture the moment.
Post # 11
@Bears-bub: Im wondering the same thing, OP how did that wrist loop work out? I dont really like bustles either…
Post # 12
You look beautiful dont be silly! 🙂 Plus the good thing about pictures is if you don’t love it, delete it or photoshop the shiny-ness out 🙂 I think you can definitely see how healthy you are, you are tiny and have AWESOME shoulders! I look back on most my guest pictures and think “geez I’m a slouch or, that shiny-ness on my mid section pleat makes my hips look huge! But at this point, I could care less what I looked like, drank, ate, said, it was the best day and was about Us and our friends and family.
Post # 13
It’s just an optical illusion, like the PPs said. I think you look thin and pretty in all the photos. just look at your collarbones.
Post # 14
@Ree723: I think youlook really pretty in your dress. I agree with other PPs in that it’s because in the last photo you’re stood in front of a white wall.
Post # 15
@Bears-bub:@DarleneP: You ladies may want to look into what the bees like to call the “nacho” bustle. It’s a bustle that doesn’t look like one. It’s what I used because I HATE traditional bustles.
OP, you look beautiful. I looked awful in my guest photos too, but the pros were MUCH better. I wouldn’t sweat it too much.
Post # 16
Thank you all – you have definitely put a much better spin on the situation and now I’m excited to see how the pro pics have turned out! Thanks for all the positive reiforcement!
@lockha: Thank you for putting this all into perspective – you’re absolutely right. At the end of the day, all that marries is that we were married and able to celebrate with those who are nearest and dearest to us! 🙂
@zippylef: Great suggestion on the way to bustle without it looking like a bustle. I honestly wouldn’t recommend the wrist loop, just based on the couple of hours I was using it whilst taking photos. It was so much nicer to just not have to worry about it during the reception, especially when out on the dance floor!