(Closed) The more things change…the more they CHANGE (VENT, long) Some Advice Needed!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
514 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I’m sorry for your disappointment but it doesn’t matter the number of guests…it just matters that the people who are there are important to you rather than you inviting random people just to fill the space. Can you leave it at the original place with only 50 people or you have a minimum requirement you have to meet?

Also, I don’t think it matters about the bridesmaid to guests ratio but again that you have bridesmaids who are important to you. Who cares if you have 5 attendants for 40 guests…I wouldn’t demote an attendant.

Post # 4
3148 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@morgobride: I think you are jsut panicking and you need to slow down and take a deep breath!! 🙂

If i were you I would stick to everything you have planned already.  It doesnt really matter how many people show up or not.


I know what you are going through. I loved loved loved a venue but it only held 80 people…we were inviting 100 and that didnt include staff etc. so i knew it would be tight…so I moved somewhere else. Only 80 people showed up to the wedding…and then add staff etc. Sometimes I think about how I could have had the other place if i had known…but you dont!! (maybe they will RSVP yes when they get an invite in the mail…who knows!!)

What i am trying to say…is that the day of when i was dancing away etc. i didnt notice there was room for 20 more people at my venue…and you wont either. All you will notice are the great friends and family that have FILLED the room with so much love for you guys….


Post # 7
830 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’m so sorry you’re having to deal with this. I can’t believe people are saying they won’t attend because they’ll be “sick”. How ridiculous! You should have the wedding at whatever venue you like more regardless of guest count. Unless of course your venue requires a certain number. Definately don’t demote any attendants. I’m having 5 bridesmaids and we are only inviting around 75 people so I could easily end up with 50 too.

Post # 8
3148 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@morgobride: oh man..dont get me wrong..i would be PISSED if my DH’s family was saying they were going to sick, five months in advance.

I am sure everything you have picked is amazing though, and like all brides do, they second guess their choices and focus to much on what would make other people happy.


If you love this venue and everything else…just do it!! If people dont show u, thats fine..more room for dancing/mingling etc.

I promise you everything will work out, one way or another!

Post # 9
5657 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

I don’t think you need to demote any bridesmaids/groomsmen. You can have any number of people up there with you, regardless of how many guests!

It sucks that not as many as you hoped will be at your wedding, but focus on the fact that these are 50 people who clearly do love you very much! You’ll be spending your wedding day with the people who truly matter most.

Post # 10
1843 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I almost think I would keep the venue the same so that you could invite the people you’ve already talked to about the wedding.  As far as minimizing the bridal party, would your sisters/family understand if you asked them to step down?  If you explained the situation and that you think it may be odd to have such a large bridal party with fewer guests, I know I would understand (especially if it’s your sister/family).

I do agree …before you jump in and make any decisions, take some time to really think it through.  It definitely stinks that you don’t have some of your family support but if it were me, I’d still want to have the same party and involve the friends that you’ve already been talking it over with (who do want to be there and support you).

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