(Closed) The more time that passes the worst I feel …financially

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
3620 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Where are you located? Our DJ was very reasonable – $500 for the night! He’s based in New Husband, so I dont know if that helps or not… good luck!

Post # 4
2866 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Don’t stress about making your wedding like everything else you’ve ever seen. I think a lot of brides get caught up in things they HAVE to have because that’s how everyone else does it. Make it your own – if you don’t really care about certain things then just let them go.

We had a laptop for background music and when we wanted to make a speech we just told everyone to gather around – no mic needed.

We negotiated a killer deal with our baker for the cake and grooms cake ($150 for a $350 cake)- but I just wanted something with minimal design so flexibility can help.

Friends and family took pictures – we had about 4 people shooting (2 of which were actual professionals) – we had more than enough photos of everything.

Eight months later, I don’t regret skipping certain things to save money, but I definitely would regret it if I had spent more than I was comfortable with!

Post # 5
1876 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Breathe – it’s going to be okay.Here are a few ideas to maybe solve your dilemnas:

Cake: Can you schedule a sit down meeting with the person doing your cake and make sure it’s legit? If not – can you speak to your venue and see who else they recommend? Or – can you just buy a cute small cutting cake and have basic CostCo shet cake in the back? Simple and cheap.

DJ + Photographer: I understand you don’t want to spend a lto of money on these things, but I feel you can get away with spending a little money and get great results. CRAIGSLIST is your friend. I’m sure you could find a DJ and photographer on there. Start looking for deals on all the wedding sites, you never know what you’ll find.

I really feel that these two items you should have semi-professional (aka – not a friend or family member). You want to be able to relax and enjoy the night, if you are worried about the music and announcements it’ll be hard to do that. As far as photography goes – having professional pictures of your wedding day is pretty important to me – I’m guessing it is to you too. You can find someone for cheap, just start asking around.

Best of luck!

Post # 6
158 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Are you near a college? Perhaps getting a DJ who is a college student will be more affordable(they dont have much so they cant charge much..lol) I say this because we are using a student and its only costing us 75$. AS for the cake…It is hard dealing with people who are not “professionals” in their field and this experience can be either really great or really terrible.

In my situation it worked(or will work out) great for me. i just sampled the cupcakes for the first time yesterday adn they are TO DIE FOR(Have you considered a cupcake tower instead of wedding cake). If you are usig a trusted friend, it is important to understand that they may nto be a professional…but taht doesnt mean they wont get the job done.

As for photography, again Im going to direct you to a school….go on down to the nerares photography departemtn and see what you can see…I do agree with your aunt in that you really want someone who is going to be there to take pictures not to mingle….because otherwise in the future you will find yourself longing for shots you dont have.

Hugs to you I hope you can make it through this. I also found myself in a similar situation at about that point in the process(then i had a breakdown, wanted to elope etc) but then I somehow got it all together using a major overhaul…Best advice I can give, DO NOT try to impress people…every financial decision should be because you and Fiance wanted to…

Post # 7
63 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

We have a great DJ for cheap too. Are you in PA?

Post # 8
10366 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Your dad is using your wedding as an excuse to buy a high tech camera….

Whatever you do, do not let someone who just bought their camera take your pics. They will not really know the ins and outs of the camera, and i’m going to guess – not have the types of lenses that can handle a wedding situation (fast leses (super wide aperture) and high quality glass that is much clearer than any kit lens you would get. Get a photogreapher who knows what they are doing. Trust me. Equipment doesn’t make someone good – they have to know what they are doing!

Post # 11
1641 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I don’t have any words of wisdom, but I feel your pain. I’m really excited for our wedding, but can’t wait for the day when every extra penny is being funneled into one day.


Good luck to ya!

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