Post # 1
UGH just had to vent some
Well there’s five months to go till the big day. Our plans have progressed and we are making good with getting things together. The only things left to worry about are the cake, music, and photography.
For the cake we have a very limited budget. EXTREMELY limited hell as cheap as possible lol. The lady who is doing our rentals recommended someone who fits the criteria and she gave us a great price for a 4tier cake and grooms cake. That was 2 months ago….Now I am starting to freak out. I dunno…I guess I’m used to more professional ppl who followup and all that good stuff because they really want your business. I haven’t heard a peep. So thats one thing on my mind currently.
For the music we were originally going to have an ipod wedding or at least a laptop one. When I first visited the venue the main thing out of the manager’s mouth was “I see ppl waste their money on djs and this place has a great sound system blah blah blah” Of course my mom ran with this idea and was telling everyyyyone about it. I didn’t mind at first but after a while it was aggravating and of course I got the “why don’t you just have a dj?’ deals from ppl. Well I am currently the only person working on the playlist woo ME :/
After a few tries I nailed down my lists but found that my timelines were off. Then by the power of Zeus half of my playlist disappeared :/ I just recently went back to start over again and I feel like my head is going to burst open. My concerns: sectioning the playlist, having someone in charge, who would do announcements, so I guess we’re not having a mic huh?, etc. etc. etc. In a perfect world I could stream everything together and have it run on a strict timeline straight through the night. But we all know things happen and when they do sometimes they end in disaster. The more and more I think about the whole idea the more and more I am freaking out. I don’t want to leave the music in the hands of family although with good intentions – they can screw up things. Plus there are already enough relatives at the wedding helping out which I am completely grateful. I don’t feel like putting anymore of my guests to work when they are “guests”. So after a discussion with the Mr. he agreed to help look for DJs. So with our nonexistent budget we are looking for a DJ…..fun :/
Lastly, the photography stuff. I have not booked a photographer. Reason… indecisive….money….whatever else you can come up with. At first my dad said he was going to take pictures – which to my knowledge regardless of whether I have a photographer or not he will still take them. He is even excited about buying a new high tech camera for the day. My aunt is also bringing her camera and taking pictures as well. My dad’s sister also said if we couldn’t find anyone she would do it as a last resort. Although the excitement coming from everyone is great something my aunt said has stuck in my mind – “When someone is taking pictures for your day, that is a job, not a social event. They need to be there to work, and will not have time to talk and mingle like other guests.” She is right. I need someone who is going to be devoted to taking pictures for the day – get those getting ready shots, have the knowledge of what works and what doesn’t, and be ready to go.
So now we have to add the DJ, Photography, and maybe a new cake vendor to the table if things don’t turn out right. Although the vendors I have found are considered reasonable its just so hard to part with chunks of money for our big day. I know in the long run I won’t regret the choices but for right now its HARD!!!!!!
WOOO that felt better 😀
Post # 3
Where are you located? Our DJ was very reasonable – $500 for the night! He’s based in New Husband, so I dont know if that helps or not… good luck!
Post # 4
Don’t stress about making your wedding like everything else you’ve ever seen. I think a lot of brides get caught up in things they HAVE to have because that’s how everyone else does it. Make it your own – if you don’t really care about certain things then just let them go.
We had a laptop for background music and when we wanted to make a speech we just told everyone to gather around – no mic needed.
We negotiated a killer deal with our baker for the cake and grooms cake ($150 for a $350 cake)- but I just wanted something with minimal design so flexibility can help.
Friends and family took pictures – we had about 4 people shooting (2 of which were actual professionals) – we had more than enough photos of everything.
Eight months later, I don’t regret skipping certain things to save money, but I definitely would regret it if I had spent more than I was comfortable with!
Post # 5
Breathe – it’s going to be okay.Here are a few ideas to maybe solve your dilemnas:
Cake: Can you schedule a sit down meeting with the person doing your cake and make sure it’s legit? If not – can you speak to your venue and see who else they recommend? Or – can you just buy a cute small cutting cake and have basic CostCo shet cake in the back? Simple and cheap.
DJ + Photographer: I understand you don’t want to spend a lto of money on these things, but I feel you can get away with spending a little money and get great results. CRAIGSLIST is your friend. I’m sure you could find a DJ and photographer on there. Start looking for deals on all the wedding sites, you never know what you’ll find.
I really feel that these two items you should have semi-professional (aka – not a friend or family member). You want to be able to relax and enjoy the night, if you are worried about the music and announcements it’ll be hard to do that. As far as photography goes – having professional pictures of your wedding day is pretty important to me – I’m guessing it is to you too. You can find someone for cheap, just start asking around.
Best of luck!
Post # 6
Are you near a college? Perhaps getting a DJ who is a college student will be more affordable(they dont have much so they cant charge much..lol) I say this because we are using a student and its only costing us 75$. AS for the cake…It is hard dealing with people who are not “professionals” in their field and this experience can be either really great or really terrible.
In my situation it worked(or will work out) great for me. i just sampled the cupcakes for the first time yesterday adn they are TO DIE FOR(Have you considered a cupcake tower instead of wedding cake). If you are usig a trusted friend, it is important to understand that they may nto be a professional…but taht doesnt mean they wont get the job done.
As for photography, again Im going to direct you to a school….go on down to the nerares photography departemtn and see what you can see…I do agree with your aunt in that you really want someone who is going to be there to take pictures not to mingle….because otherwise in the future you will find yourself longing for shots you dont have.
Hugs to you I hope you can make it through this. I also found myself in a similar situation at about that point in the process(then i had a breakdown, wanted to elope etc) but then I somehow got it all together using a major overhaul…Best advice I can give, DO NOT try to impress people…every financial decision should be because you and Fiance wanted to…
Post # 7
We have a great DJ for cheap too. Are you in PA?
Post # 8
Your dad is using your wedding as an excuse to buy a high tech camera….
Whatever you do, do not let someone who just bought their camera take your pics. They will not really know the ins and outs of the camera, and i’m going to guess – not have the types of lenses that can handle a wedding situation (fast leses (super wide aperture) and high quality glass that is much clearer than any kit lens you would get. Get a photogreapher who knows what they are doing. Trust me. Equipment doesn’t make someone good – they have to know what they are doing!
Post # 9
@jotasevic: I am currently in GA
I guess I have to keep looking around. But at least I feel better now ! 😀
Post # 10
@MrsWall2B: thanks for the advice!
Post # 11
I don’t have any words of wisdom, but I feel your pain. I’m really excited for our wedding, but can’t wait for the day when every extra penny is being funneled into one day.
Good luck to ya!