Post # 1
I just wanted to hear some comments other Bees have had, by family members, in relation to their weddings?
So far, I’ve had:
FI’s cousin: “The only family you HAVE to invite are my parents otherwise they’ll be really upset.” (Um, sorry, we don’t HAVE to invite anybody!)
Future Mother-In-Law: “What do you mean you’re not having children at the wedding? Your nieces will be there… But they’re your NIECES, they’re FAMILY! If you don’t invite them your sister (my FSIL) probably won’t come…” (Yes they’re FI’s nieces but they’re also children and we’re not having children at the wedding. Full stop. If Future Sister-In-Law won’t come because she can’t stand to be away from her children for a few hours then, oh well, we will definitely miss her but we refuse to be emotionally blackmailed.)
My sister: “You’re having your reception where? I don’t like that place. Don’t have it there. Think about it some more.” (Um. No. Tough luck.)
So what has everyone else had said to them that has rubbed them the wrong way?
Post # 3
Yeah, that sucks. I would have responded to the first one with something like “Oh really? We don’t need to invite our parents or grandparents? Thank godness!!” My wedding is still pretty far away, so I haven’t gotten any comments like that yet. I am sure if I don’t get comments I will get a “oh really? well, if that’s what you REALLY want” look. Right now, I am only talking to my mom about the wedding so I don’t get any reactions like this…
Post # 4
Father – Why get engaged then (about our super long engagement)
Sister – Shottie Maid/Matron of Honor
Sister – You can’t have long bridesmaid dresses, I am short. Can I shorten it?
bestie – um I would be Maid/Matron of Honor, I have known you the longest.
bestie – Would he even come up for the wedding? (about one of my FI’s best men) You should just have (other best man’s name) as best man.
bestie – you better take me to the cake tasting.
basically all assumptions about bridal party and trying to control things my Fiance and I choose
Post # 5
I got this tonight
Um You’re having kids at the wedding … it starts at 7pm.
uh yeah… they take naps I fully intend for all of 25 nieces and nephews and great nieces and nephew (they range from newborn to 32.. my age) to be there. We get together for funerals .. the last wedding was 6 years ago. I want family pictures. They will be fine or they will sleep in a chair during the dancing.
You’re going to have alcohol? Um yes
wait .. you’re having kids in your wedding .. yes
Post # 6
I have had similar comments as you posted and I have also had a few others, such as:
(Grandmother): Your spending way too much money and your being a brat…fussy! (Um grandma sorry I don’t like the same old cookie cutter, cheap, boring wedding crap I like to be original and your not paying for it so don’t worry about it. Actually it wasn’t even like I was spending that much more I was just getting the stuff I wanted compared to buying the same old stuff such as ring bearer pillow, Flower Girl basket, etc. off of the shelf at Jo-Ann Fabrics. Ugh)
(Mom) I don’t like that cake, I like this one better. (Well that cake is not what I invisioned and does not fit with the theme of the wedding).
(Flowergirl/Step-Mom) Are you going to put her in an ivory/white dress. Me: No I would prefer flowergirl to match the bridesmaids. Flowergirl: Ewwe, I don’t like Black. (Mind you she is 7 years old not 3-4 and wears a size 14 so finding a white/ivory dress for a good price is difficult, and I prefer to be the only one in those colors at the wedding. So sorry if you don’t like it. I found a black flowergirl dress at dillards during the holiday’s for $60 and guess what she loves it).
Post # 7
Haha I wasn’t aware that the kids would be appalled by booze at a wedding. O_o
My Future Mother-In-Law just poopooed my dress choice. But that is probably pretty normal for a Future Mother-In-Law, right?
Post # 8
Wow, some people just have no idea right??!
Meanwhile @WillyNilly – that is BS. I hope her comment hasn’t put you off having the dress YOU want?
Post # 9
@JustMarried51912: Your spending way too much money…
This, a million times this. It is none of their business nor is it their money!
Post # 10
my sister: you can’t have disposable plates and cups! Thats so cheap!! I was so angry that I had to drink wine out of a plastic cup at our cousin’s wedding. If you can’t afford nice dishes then you shouldn’t be getting married.
SERIOUSLY!? We are having a BBQ buffet! I think its OKAY to have those disposable plates that look like china.
Post # 11
haha all of your comments made me laugh (in a sad way b/c i will be feeling all of your pains soon).. we havent started too much serious planning yet but i know we’ll be hearing things like that..
my current comments are surrounding how i should have waited longer to get engaged, that most people wait to get married, there’s no rush to get married, etc. (please keep in mind that i’ve known my fiance since we were 13.. we’ve been dating for about 6 yrs and he wanted to propose LAST YEAR but didnt b/c he knew my parents pereferred we wait a bit)..
its like ‘are you kidding me?!’ how much longer do they really thing we need to wait.. not to mentioned im older than both my parents were when they got married!
so frustrating. cant wait for all the fun comments to come.
Post # 12
@MrsNerdy: Good lord. There are plenty nice throw- away options for dishware. Especially for a BBQ type wedding!
My family just keeps telling us to elope. We did consider it for a while, but we ultimately decided that we want a wedding to celebrate so we arent looking back after making the deposit on the venue. Its just sort of iritating because we’ve made the decision and some of them keep bringing it up. “too much money” “thats kind of weird” comments are super annoying as well! WE are paying for it people, if you havent offered any financial support, then it isn’t appropriate to say a thing about anything!!
Post # 14
When I got engaged ” your not pregnant are you?”from my grandma.
Which honestly is not unreasonable since I’ll be the first grandchild to be married BEFORE having kids…. But still it irked me.
Post # 15
I can’t really think of all of them but I am sure the worst is yet to come. Hahahaha.
Sister-MOH: I don’t like those kind of dresses because I would like to wear something more poofy. You kinda look weird.
Future sis-in-law: You are seriously considering yellow as part of your colors? You can’t do that color. My bestie might be doing that color in her wedding and I already HATE that color. I refuse to wear a yellow bridesmaids dress.
Future sis-in-law: You should just do the caterer that we did. It was only ok food but it was cheap.
Dad:(when told about the venue) A barn? Hmmm. Why don’t you just do something more logical and just getting married in someones backyard. (when asked exactly WHO’S wedding-ready large backyard someone could host it in… he drew a blank.)
Post # 16
@imalittlebirdie: Hahaha I forgot that I got that too! Every time I visit my family they keep sneaking glances at my belly to see if it has grown. They still don’t believe me. I sure know the feeling!