(Closed) the most annoying question ever

posted 10 years ago in Waiting
Post # 17
759 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Oh it is terrible! My SO and I have had this numerous times. The only thing more uncomfortable is when they call him your “husband”, and this only because you’re secretly dreaming of that day and it seems so far out of reach.

My SOs Aunt asked us that question just 8 months into dating. My first time meeting her and it was in front of his aunt,three of her friends and his mother with him right next to me she looks at me and says “So when are y’all getting married?” I didn’t know what to say, it hadn’t been brought up since we first started dating and came to the agreement that we would wait until we were closer to 30 (as we were only 22, 23) so I blurt the first thing that came to mind, what we agreed on. I say “Not for at least another 5-10 years”. Yeah they all looked at me a little funny after that. Couple weeks later SO confessed his (at the time) recent new feelings and how he had been thinking about marrying me! I felt horrible! Felt even worse when he told me the week before that night he had asked his mom for the wedding ring she received from his father for an heirloom ring… Yeah… I don’t think it’s going to be easy to live that whole wreck down!

Post # 18
205 posts
Helper bee

I’ve been with my SO for nearly 8 years so we get the “when are you getting engaged/married” question A LOT. After a while, I started answering with, “Oh, I’m not sure he’s “the one” yet” That shut them up quickly! haha

Post # 19
924 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I think the longer you wait, the more they give up on asking. We have been together over 4 years now and so everyone seems to be stopping asking lately – thankfully!!

Post # 20
103 posts
Blushing bee

OP – I couldn’t agree more! Even though the intentions may not be to be rude but sometimes, those “unwanted reminders” that you’re not engaged or married can weigh a little heavy on the heart…

Post # 21
11 posts
  • Wedding: November 2012

My favorite is the friends and family who tell you how anxious they are waiting for me to get engaged.  I just constantly deflect but I want to scream, imagine how anxious I AM, it’s not even about you!!!!!  AH, that felt good 🙂

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