Post # 1
So..here we are a week before the wedding and I am just receiving the prenup document. Really??
The fiance and I discussed the idea of a prenup, roughly, 2 months after our engagement. I agreed it would be a good idea protecting both parties (legally), considering his business(es).
I received the prenup yesterday and he expects it to be signed by next week. He has lost every mosel he considers a brain! i refuse to sign it, as I see some things that need to be omitted. For instance, in the document it states things that he and I have not discussed. For instance, me seeking counsel (which I need) the document states I will be representing myself. The waiver of right to occupy separate property residence, no alimony, no spousal support, the list goes on.
And to top it all off, does he expect me to pull money out of my hole to cover the expenses of a counsel?
Should I be as pissed as I am? When I expressed my reservations, he simply said: it’s either signed or we call everything off. Wow!
Advice would be great, Bees…
Post # 3
He seems like he’s being harsh. I’d sit him down nicely, and explain to him the parts you are taking issue with. Perhaps he can have the lawyers who drew it up meet with you both, to amend it?
Post # 4
The whole point of a prenup is to protect both parties. My understanding is that it should be negotiated back and forth until both sides are in agreement to the terms – he shouldn’t just hand one over and say “Sign it, or else.” Do you have a lawyer? Have them look over it and express your concerns.
Post # 5
I would absolutely NOT sign anything without having my own lawyer review it.
Post # 6
I think you need to sit down with him and the lawyer and figure it out. Obviously don’t sign anything you’re not comfortable with. Make sure you get one you’re okay with.. and if not.. then i guess either a) no prenup or b) no wedding
Post # 7
If this was a dealbreaker he should have given it to you way more in advance than this. And i absolutely wouldn’t sign a prenup without having my own attorney review it. Why he’s not open to you examining it with your own lawyer to ensure it’s worded to protect you both is the bigest red flag here for me.
Post # 8
get a lawyer. Don’t even think about signing it right now.
Post # 9
because this is what you need to be worrying about a week before your wedding…
im sorry he’s being so difficult but i agree with everyobe else. you must go over it with a lawyer of your own (not his) before you sign it. we arent doing a prenup (the perks of owning nothing i suppose) but if we were i wouldnt be cool with no support if he was the primary breadwinner.
get to a lwayer asap!
Post # 10
What the what? I totally echo the PPs. Get a lawyer and don’t sign anything you’re not comfortable with.
Post # 11
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
A week before the wedding would typically be considered unreasonable depending on complicated the matters are within it and whether you could reasonably have time to review it and negotiate terms. It is inappropriate for him to spring it on you at the last minute and I persoanlly would refuse to sign it. At this point he would either negotiate more freely with you about it and/or put off the wedding. How embarassing would it be fore him if the wedding was put off? He can still draft a post-nuptial if he’s concerned and post-nuptials are usually more ironclad than prenuptials.
THIS IS NOT LEGAL ADVICE. YOU CAN AND SHOULD BE ABLE TO MEET WITH A LAWYER ASAP FOR A FREE CONSULTATION REGARDING THE PRENUPTIAL.
Post # 12
I would consider postpoining the wedding.
Talk to you lawyer, and do some soul searching.
Post # 13
Probably crap his lawyer jammed in there, but then again, you NEVER know!
Post # 14
Not only would I not sign it, I would not consider marrying anyone who would present me with those terms.
Post # 15
If the prenup is to protect both parties, it follows that both parties play a hand in drafting the prenup. End of story.
His ultimatum makes me want to hit things.
Post # 16
That doesn’t sound very loving of him.
I would be wondering if there was something shady about it, under these circumstances. You have every right to be upset, something’s not right with this picture.
Please get a lawyer to look at it before you sign anything. And call his bluff. You don’t give someone an ultimatum like that!