(Closed) The most ridiculous requests / opinions from people regarding your wedding

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1640 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@inspiration86:  My pseudo-grandmother (not blood related but family friends) gave me shit over my invitations being from Vistaprint because she didn’t understand why I was trying to save money and being so “cheap” for my wedding. “Do you really want it to be remembered as cheap?” she asked. SO I sent her a literal breakdown of every single cost and the associated NORMAL cost along with our budget and the budget it WOULD be if I hadn’t worked so hard to get good deals. That shut her right up. (Basically the request was to spend more money and get fancy pants invitations for like $5/invite).

Most recently, Future Mother-In-Law basically twisted my arm to have a rehearsal dinner and my mom asked me to invite four of her co-workers who I barely know. Oh, and earlier on in the process, Future Mother-In-Law emailed Fiance a list of people to invite about 40 people long, most of whom Fiance hadn’t seen since he was a child. She was like, “Invite them, they won’t come, but you can get presents!” Who does that?

Post # 4
523 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@inspiration86:  My future IL’s thought I would be having a wedding of over 300 guests because FI’s older brother did. Not going to happen here! I actually want to enjoy my wedding not dread it.

Post # 5
1032 posts
Bumble bee

My Mother-In-Law asked if we could invite THREE more people the night BEFORE the wedding!!

Umm no no we did not!

Post # 6
67 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

My future in laws have caused soooooooo much stress!!! To the point where I am currently off work with depression because of them. 

I’ll start at the beginning:


we got engaged on xmas day, middle of jan we went round there to tell them our plans. 


1. Me and Fiance are only having 50 people at our day ceremony, due to us paying for the day all ourselves. So we called the line at cousins, it was fair that way for both me and mr Loubie. His parents didn’t see it like this, they actually counted how many brothea/sisters/aunts etc I had compared to them ( I only hav a small family too). And they couldn’t understand why we were inviting the FIs oldest friends Girlfriend, because the Mother-In-Law hates her……!!!

It was actually mentioned that we shouldn’t have friends at all at OUR OWN wedding…


2. mr Loubie is having his best friend as Bridesmaid or Best Man, not his brother. His dad got angry about this cause its ‘not what he did’. Even though Brother-In-Law has no idea where we live, how we got together and I have only met him 3 times! And Father-In-Law started screaming at FIN(FI is 30…not 3!)


3. Fiance and I don’t have kids and neither of us like kids at weddings ( our opinions), and our venue is a 15th century Cambridge university hall, so not suitable for kids at all. we told this to the IL’s and they went ballistic. They have one child in the family (FI nephew), whereas there are 4 nieces/nephew from my side. But no one from my family minded. 

They used emotional blackmail, threats, and the Father-In-Law physically punched the Fiance and threw him threw a door….(nice or what from your own dad!!!) 


9 months on, and its still going on! Brother-In-Law is refusing to come at all because his son isn’t invited. 

Father-In-Law is being a **** and won’t give the Fiance a straight answer as to whether he’s coming or not! 

I feel so much for my Fiance, it must be awful being put in this position but the Mother-In-Law told me that ththinking its their day!!! 


it’s now got to the point where I’m dreading the wedding!! 




Post # 7
4606 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I had an old friend ask me if she could be my Maid/Matron of Honor since I’ve known her longer than my current Maid/Matron of Honor. I might have asked her if I were getting married two years ago, but we aren’t really friends anymore and the only time she talks to me now is to ask about the wedding. 

I had my second Maid/Matron of Honor (I have a maid and a matron, this is the maid) ask me if her son could be in my wedding. Her son is the worst kid I’ve ever been around. 

Post # 8
12248 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

“If you have a small wedding, you’ll regret it FOREVER!”

…Or I’ll save 10K and buy a house. Y’know.

Post # 9
2433 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

My husband has 12 aunts and uncles on his father’s side, and many, many cousins. Several of those cousins have children — we’ve only met a handful of those kids. Most of his second cousins we’ve NEVER met, and they were all under the age of 15. We would’ve added easily 30 or 40 people (who we didn’t even know) if we invited all of those second cousins, which would’ve turned our wedding into less of a wedding and more of a chaotic zoo. So, we only invited the parents and left all 2nd cousins off the invites. Almost all of his cousins refused to attend without their kids, because they claimed they absolutely could not find sitters. I find that incredibly hard to believe. 

Post # 10
1691 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

This all just reminds me why when my daughTer gets married, she will do whatever the fuck she wants. Why? Because it’s not my god damn wedding. It’s hers.


Post # 11
112 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My sister got pregnant and is due right around our wedding date (which is great!  Our date, however, was set long before her pregnancy).  Since she lives on the west coast and won’t be able to travel, she suggested that we cancel our wedding and reschedule it.


Our venue is already booked through 2014.  My FI’s relatives are all coming in from Africa (with travel arrangements already set).  She also suggested this just a few weeks ago (wedding is next month).


Um, sorry sis, but no…..


To top it off, if she was able to attend, she is one of those people that would bitch the entire time about having to be there.


Post # 12
7735 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@inspiration86:  I’ve shared this one before: my brother broke off with his gf a month or two before the wedding, started with a new gf. My mother wanted us to invite the old gf – and not the new one – on the basis that the old gf knew us better.

No mum, we don’t decide who my brother / your son dates.

Since then, I’ve heard of many other mothers getting weird attachments to their sons’ exes, openly preferring them over their new partners. I hope I don’t become like that.

Post # 13
303 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

My Mother-In-Law and my mother both wanted to invite co-workers (each around 30)

Tht is 60 more invites for just co-workers which neither Fiance nor I know..

Keep in mind that each co-worker has a spouse or husband, which means 120 more invites!!!!

They think it is their day, and it is okay for them to do whatever they want!

Post # 14
2076 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia

I have had suggestions to:
– Change the date to August by a guest
– Change our destination wedding venue in BC (Rockies) to a hotel two blocks away from FIL’s house and our house. In addition, I received judgement about not knowing how to throw a cost-friendly wedding. She suggested that we book a community hall and hire catering. She kept comparing to how my FI’s brother and SIL did theirs. (FI and I kept quiet. I wanted to cry; my reaction was, “But we already paid the deposit”. However, she did apologize later when we weren’t returning her messages.) I still have a feeling this will be an ongoing issue despite her written apology (text); it would still resurface later. She isn’t even paying for the wedding. All she has to do is to show up and have fun.

My most favourite/fun ridiculous suggestion:
– My mom was joking that my brother should be my bridesman, to which I said, “Yeah, okay! Would he mind wearing a tutu?”

Post # 15
1078 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014


-My aunt suggested i invited 9 ppl i dont really know they are friends of the families kids kids (b.c. she wanted her 12 year old son to have a big group of kids at a kid table) 


that being said i already have 4-8 kids who are my cousins and cousins kids, his neice and nefew, and my best friends children

She even seemed annoyed when iwas like no, i am going i get 90 guests i not using 10% of the numbers for people i dont know i dont know these children there for they will not be there  She got irate and went but but they will look so cute in ther little suits and dresses and i was like NO 


-Another crazy thing was I met this girl at starbucks more my mom did, she sat with us yesterday then again today … my mom told her I was engaged and she said well i better be invited or i am going to hurt you… she said it like a big joke but its like omg i met you twice lol it was all i was thinking i dont even know her last name lol or where i would send an invite and she is like damanding one


Post # 16
2278 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I know this one isn’t that bad in the grand scheme of things, but my Mother-In-Law asked if we could invite some of her friends, mind you, Fiance and I have never met these people.

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