- 10 years ago
Definitely the guest list. And waiting for RSVP’s to come back in (already past the deadline and half are still out)
family drama on both sides
Knowing that mine is over 2 years away and I’m planning for it already!! And that I am living in British Columbia while planning a wedding that is going to be in my home town of St. John’s, Newfoundland which is over 7000kms away!
@TwinkleToesJM: Well stated!!!
Bridesmaids.I thought they were supposed to help a little bit..not hinder.
The fact that my fiance and I are paying for the wedding and although we are not going to be spendthrifts that doesn’t mean we have to have a shoestring budget wedding so my family could stop insisting on some things that could save us money DESPITE the fact that we have saved our money, made a decision about our budgets and know what we can and cannot afford as well as stopping my mother from inviting people we have not seen for more then six years!
Guest list and family drama ’cause of the guest list (adults-only reception). I was having fun wedding planning up until this part! 🙁 Don’t forget it’s your day and it’s about marrying your best friend. :o)
My biggest stressor involves me yelling, in my one Bridezilla moment, “68 chairs = 68 butts!!!” I’m sure it will go down in family history.
Our dream venue is a beatiful cobblestone house set within a park. It includes 68 chairs for the number of people approved to be there. We wanted a very small wedding, so it didn’t seem to be a problem then. Uh, it’s a huge problem. I swear people come out of the woodwork like you would not believe when there’s a wedding involved. It has been such a struggle to keep the guest list under 70. Parents and the like all have opinions of “Oh, well, so and so should be invited…” His family is Italian, and this is not going over well. And then there’s my darling groom himself who, being all responsible and sweet! He finished his guest list, and even under the amount of guests we had both agreed to. I AM proud of him, and I was glancing over the guest list when I mentioned “Oh, good! Aunt Jane and Uncle John are going to come!” to which he responded “Yup, and their kids Jonny and Janine, too!” Now, the kids were not listed anywhere in the guest list, and when I asked about it, my loving groom said “Yeah, but kids don’t count. They’re little. They won’t take up much room.” AUUUUUUUGH! What I recall following is a tirade concerning the fact that children Do count, and that we had 68 chairs, period. 68 chairs = 68 butts, big, small, young or old.
Lesson be learned, if they have butts, they count.
this is really interesting to read. i know i was irrationally stressed out by trying to find a microphone for our toasts — i don’t know anything about audio stuff at all and had no idea what to look for. the venue had a surround sound system but the owner was pretty clueless about the details, so i didn’t even know what to ask! we were lucky to be able to borrow it from a friend’s school in the end. i *knew* it was not a big deal in the scheme of things, but it was keeping me up at night… of course, as with all dramas — after all that, it was too squeaky and we didn’t even use it….
@ jadeblue — i felt that way as well. when people asked me if i was excited for the wedding, i kept saying “if we get through friday.” we self-catered a dessert reception that night and it WAS a wonderful chance to see everyone before the craziness. i would highly recommend delegating some tasks though, and having really clear to-do lists for everyone who can help out — that way, they don’t have to keep coming to you. we had boxes of food/dishes/drinks etc. set up with detailed step-by-step instructions so our friends could set up while we were at the rehearsal dinner with family. it ended up being a lot less of a hassle than i had feared. i was however NOT smart enough to use the same tactics for the sunday brunch, and i felt like i was running around all morning and did not have a chance to say proper goodbyes to people…
I don’t even wanna know how much we’ve spent already… and we’re bound to spend even more before everything is said and done!
Without a doubt MONEY! I just recently lost my job for next year (I’m a teacher) and we’ve already put out deposits and planned everything. I know everything will be alright but I feel so guilty spending money and I’m stressed looking for a new job.
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