(Closed) The Most Traditional Way to Change My Name?

posted 5 years ago in Traditions
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m confused. Isn’t the tradition to drop your own last name and replace it with his?

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

@Coral99:  the most traditional thing would be to simply change your last name to his, keeping your middle name the same. 

Margot Ann Smith becomes Margot Ann Jones. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Depends on what the social security office let’s you do.  You need to go to the social security office first then the driver’s license office.  In our area the social security office only allowed me to change my last name but not my middle name.  Other areas will allow you to change both your last name and your middle name.

Traditionally, you would change your last name to your husband’s and your middle name to your maiden name. (So Jane Smith Jones using the example below.)

For example: Jane Doe Smith marries John Jones; she can stay Jane Doe Smith or change her name to Jane Doe Jones or Jane Smith Jones or Jane Smith-Jones.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@mamadingdong:  

@Coral99: 

I kind of disagree.  I think it’s more traditional to drop your middle.  Margaret Ann Smith becomes Margaret Smith Jones.

You can go either way, though!  Whatever you like best!  I couldn’t part with my maiden name.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Coral99:  When I changed mine, they asked me if I wanted to drop my middle name or drop my last name.  I didn’t consider having 4 names, so I don’t know if they would have let me.  I’ve never heard of them having limitations, though!  I’m in Virginia.

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

It totally depends on what social security office you walk into.  A worker at the one here in Orlando gave me a 5 minute speech about why I couldn’t keep my maiden name and refused to allow me to drop my middle name in order to make it my maiden name.  Bottom line?  Have an idea of what you want but know that if the worker prefers to do it a certain way you can’t really argue with them.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I had never heard of dropping your middle name until I joined the bee.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Coral99:  Right.  I dropped my middle but plan on using my middle in my daughter’s name.  (My maiden name wouldn’t work for a name at all)

Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

In all honesty, traditionally most women didn’t legally change their names the way we do today.  They would just start using their husband’s last name once they got married.

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