(Closed) The "Mother" of All Unusual Honeymoon Questions: Should We Take Our Kids?

posted 5 years ago in Honeymoons
Post # 2
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Honey bee

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liz42:  I think the honeymoon should be for just you and him. A family trip, even if it’s just a weekend getaway/road trip, a little while after you return from the honeymoon would be a nice gesture. 

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I have a friend who did a destination wedding, and stayed on for a second week as the honeymoon with her daughter. I actually think it’s a really nice idea, although it really depends on how well your children get along, and their feelings about the wedding.

If they get along and are happy and excited about it all, I’d say go for it. If there are mixed feelings or they don’t get along too well, I’d say leave it as you and your husband, then take a weekend away with the girls after you get back.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

I wouldn’t.  You’ll have plenty of other opportunities to have family trips.  Also, it’s important for your kids to understand that you are not only parents: you are also a couple.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

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liz42:  This was an issue with us as well. And I was really torn about it. We are planning an elopement (not too far away) and this destination really lends itself to a family vacation. But in the end we realized as good as our intentions were it wasn’t going to be a relaxing and as “couple focused” as we (i.e.: I) needed it to be. We are doing a family vacation beforehand instead and trying not to feel bad about leaving the kids behind. (we have five together, so it’s obviously a bigger deal than 2 kids)

Good luck with your decision and remember: only you can decide what’s right for you as a couple and family. Go with your gut feeling and don’t let potentially feeling guilty be a part of your decision. If your gut says yes to the kids, do it! If not, don’t do it!

🙂

 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

We will take our son but he will be 2-3 at the time. I think he’s too young to leave but as a compromise we will have one possibly two nights away together somewhere. 

In the circumstances you describe i w take your girls. They aren’t that far away from adulthood and you and Fiance will have plenty of opportunities to holiday alone then. Xx

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

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liz42:  Oh I’m sorry, I assumed that you each had a daughter from a previous relationship, because you wrote that your wedding meant that you were becoming a whole family.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

You know, tbh, I wouldn’t want to, but….

1.) Your kids are thrilled that you’re getting married, so it might be sweet to include them.

2.) My mom and stepdad got married when I was five, took their honeymoon without me, and then (according to them), spent the entire trip talking about how they wished they’d brought me! (Then they ended up taking me the next summer, and pretty much every summer after that. :))

Go with your heart!

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Me and my fiance also have two kids together. We are not taking them on our honeymoon because they will still be so young (3 and 1 1/2) so it wouldn’t really give us a break, or a chance to just be a couple. Also, they wouldn’t remember any of it.

However, with your girls being much older, I think it would be awesome to bring them! They will be old enough to remember it all and have a great family time.

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Honey take your kids! It will be a joyous experience for all of you. Since they’re a little older you will get some privacy I’m sure. Sit at a different table for dinner and watch them from afar lol this is a family victory and you should celebrate it together CONGRATS

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2018 - City, State

I wouldn’t. You never get to go on a honeymoon again, make it a true honeymoon! Plus, maybe its just the activities I enjoy, but I didn’t think St Martin was particularly family friendly. 

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

i wouldn’t. Mine is 5. It’d be a nightmare for us lol

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I’m planning on taking DD on our “honeymoon” when we decide to have it. We got married last September but I was pregnant at the time and we didn’t go on a real honeymoon. Instead we’ll be spending the money we would have spent to got to Disney (which would be my dream honeymoon anyway) and will bring DD with us, she’ll probably be 2 or 3 at the time. If I’m going to spend the money on a big trip I want it to be for us a family not just DH and I but that’s just my personal preference – I certainly wouldn’t feel obligated to bring her if I preferred the idea of DH and I going alone.

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