(Closed) The "Mother" of All Unusual Honeymoon Questions: Should We Take Our Kids?

posted 6 years ago in Honeymoons
Post # 17
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

We didn’t take my daughter, who was 7 at the time. But I missed her like crazy. It was probably for the best that we went alone, but I’ll admit she was never far from my mind while we were gone.

Post # 18
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I was questioning this as well, my son is 8. We decided it’d be best for us to have a little bit of a getaway alone together and as he is still in school at the time, its the best choice for us. It’s only a week in our case and he loves spending time with his grandmas so, though I am a little sad about it, I think it’s going to be good for all of us. 

If you want to bring along your children I would. I see that it’ll be a summer wedding so itd be pretty fun for the kids I bet, but then again they can always have fond memories of staying at grandmas (or wherever) that whole week or two you were gone. Where do you plan on going? Would you want to have a PG13 honeymoon? That’s all you have to keep in mind. When you think traditional honeymoon you imagine beaches and going at it like bunnies, etc, if that isn’t what you have in mind then having a familymoon could def be fun!

I’m definitely Switzerland here – it’s situational and totally up to you on what your idea of a honeymoon is 😊

Post # 19
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Sugar bee

I’m in the minority, but I would bring them. It’ll make your vacation a lot less romantic and couple-oriented, but it would make your daughters feel like part of the family you are officially becoming together.

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

It depends on your family and your values.  If you are the kind of people that don’t need too much alone time and are happiest when sharing the moment with your kids, then it may be right for you.  Make sure you are both on board about it, though.  If your fiance feels the same way, then there is no reason not to.  If you do decide to go alone, maybe you can plan a special adventure with your kids when you get back.

Post # 21
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

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liz42:  Not so wierd. We considered the same (2 year old and a will be 5 month old) We are opting to not and make it a shorter honeymoon that is just about us…since we rarely- if ever are alone these days. 

I think it depends on your situation and what you prefer to do.do you need family time? If so, it might be nice to bring,them. 

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Post # 22
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I think it depends on how often you guys have alone time together and also how often you have vacations as a family. If you already plan at least a yearly vacation, or if you rarely have time to do things as a couple, just the two of you, then I wouldn’t. Remember that this is also a time to recover from the wedding planning and you may want to sleep in more, or may want to do things you don’t usually do like go dancing later in the evening. But if you guys are the kind of family that always has more fun with the kids or you already preschedule time alone once or twice a month, then you might be okay with bringing the kids. I wouldn’t bring my daughter, but everyone is a little different. 

Post # 24
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

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liz42:  Do whatever you want to do. I personally wouldn’t do it but that’s because your whole trip would likely revolve around them, which is totally ok for a family vacation, but not what I’d want for a honeymoon. Then again, I’m one of those people that can’t fathom why someone would want to go do Disney World for their honeymoon. 😉

Listen my DH and I had people come along on our honeymoon, which was delayed 6 months after our wedding due to the location we wanted to go to. The difference is we went on a 2 week honeymoon and spent the first few days alone, then had people join us, and then they left and we spent the last few days alone. It was great and the best of both worlds but we were all adults who could do for ourselves and come/go as we wanted. That obviously wouldn’t work for you because your two kids aren’t going to fly in/out alone and go find their own fun during the trip. DH and I also travel extensively together, alone, so it wasn’t like our honeymoon was the one trip we’d do like that.

Post # 25
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

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liz42:  N.O. !!!

Post # 26
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

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liz42:  I always thought I’d want our son to go with us, but I’m so glad he didn’t! I missed him a lot, but it was so amazing getting this one on one time with my husband! It’s a totally worth going and having that special time together, alone. We were able to take our time doing what we wanted. Sleeping in, going to whatever stores we wanted, taking our time looking around, eating wherever we wanted. It definitely adds a romantic element to the trip! You’ll feel your bond is stronger after your trip. 

Post # 28
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

I have 2 kids, and there’s no way I’d bring them on a honeymoon. It’s supposed to be a romantic vacation away to celebrate you and your new husband.

Post # 29
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Busy Beekeeper

It is your honeymoon, our opinions do not matter. Do what is right for you and your family. 

Post # 30
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I wouldn’t, personally, but there is room for compromise. Since your children are 11 and 13, they can travel unaccompanied (although they don’t have to–you can pay to have them accompanied if you like), so if you wanted, you could take them for part of the trip and then send them home to other family while you and your hubby enjoy the rest of your honeymoon. 

Post # 32
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018 - City, State

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liz42:  I’ve been twice. Both times I was around heavy drinking, clubbing, and lots of nudity! Not so family friendly, but very fun! I was 21 both times. 

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