Post # 1
So we invited 53 people total to the wedding and we suspected that about 3 would have to decline with regret. Well so far, 9 have declined. That means we are looking at a wedding of only 44 people, assuming everyone else accepts from this point on. Should we invite more distant friends and relatives to get the numbers up last minute? I really liked the idea of a small wedding but I feel silly if it ends up being too small. Then no one will dance and there will be this awkwardness. We are also having an 18 piece swing band. It may feel a little odd if the band is almost half the size of the wedding itself. Should I consider this a golden opportunity to save money on cake size, catering ad the rentals or should I take action and extend invites to more people? What should I do?
Post # 3
If it was me, I’d just let the number go down a little and see where you end up. 44 people does not sound terribly too small to me. However, if there are other friends/relatives who you previously didn’t invite just because of the amount of people you were having, but would love to have them there, then now would definitely be a time to invite them. I just don’t think the only reason to do so is because you’re worried about how the guest list will look.
Post # 4
If there are people you would have liked to invite but you didn’t initially to keep the numbers down I’d invite them. But I wouldn’t go overboard. And if you want to extend an invite to your boss that is always a nice thing to do.
Post # 5
I’d say keep it small unless there were people on your “B list” that you really wanted there but didn’t invite them because of numbers constraints. Basically, invite more if you originally really really wanted them there, but don’t pad the numbers with filler people.
ETA: looks like great minds think alike, lol
Post # 6
@lionskitty: There were definitely some B listers that I wanted at the wedding but didn’t want to got too far over 50. I will probably invite a couple of friends. Thanks for the advice.