(Closed) The nerve of some people….

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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336 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@ajillity81:  Wow… just. Wow. I get that they were trying to go for humour, but considering the person who gave them the money was an “old friend” of their parents, they probably didn’t know these people well at all. 

Also, I find it really off-putting when people call cash gifts a “donation.” Am I alone in this?

Thanks for the laugh!

Post # 5
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2609 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@mgol25:  Nope.  I just cringe when I hear about couples asking for “donations” or “contributions” as if they’re in need of charity. 

I will never get the reasoning that goes, “We’re so well off we have absolutely everything we want so we’re asking for donations for a luxury vacation!”

Embarrasing. 

Post # 6
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526 posts
Busy bee

I read that too, but cringed thinking how one of my thank you’s might have come off wrong! We wrote so many and tried to be personal and grateful, but I’m sure someone had to be irked by one.  Hopefully not enough to write to Dear Abby!

 

Post # 8
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4442 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

Yikes, that’s a mess….. also $1,000?!?! For a friend’s child?!? Dayummmmm

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@ajillity81:  A donation is for charity; a gift is for a wedding. I would be so pissed if I received a note like this. Has the art of being gracious been lost? I would want to cancel the cheque and they sure wouldn’t be getting another gift from me.

Post # 10
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1876 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

OMG. I would write back such a snarky letter. Something along the lines of:

Dear Mason’ and Candace,

 We are ever so glad you appreciated the gift. Thank you so much for having us at your wedding, the prime rib was fairly average – kudos to you! Our generous gift to you was given with the intention of helping you begin your new life together. However, upon further reflection we feel it might be better put to use by investing in an ettiquette book or two.

Best of luck in your new life together. You two deserve on another!

Post # 11
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723 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

wow, I have no words for this. some people are such idiots!

Post # 12
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336 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@ajillity81@Zhabeego:  Agreed. I know at the end of the day it’s all semantics, but still, the word “donation” in regards to a cash GIFT really irks me.

@JrzyGurl:  +1,000,000. This is amazing.

Post # 13
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5245 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

WTH!!!! People are so rude!

Post # 14
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279 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Uhg… I get that the couple was going for humor but know your audience. DH and I thanked close friends and family for any “donations to the washer and dryer fund” but that was only because those people knew that’s what we were saving for.

Post # 15
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1891 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@ajillity81:  An “unfortunate attempt at humor”?  Yeah, making unfunny, off-color jokes is what I always do when people who aren’t even in my family give me an insanely generous gift.  What, do you guys actually act like you appreciate it or something?

Post # 16
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3596 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2000

@ajillity81:  It’s a poor attempt at humor and a poor choice of words. It’s something they would text to their freinds, and not appropriate for older freidns of their parents.

But let these kids off the hook, they at least acknowledged the generous gift.

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