Post # 1
I couldn’t stop laughing at today’s Dear Abby:
DEAR ABBY: My husband and I attended the wedding of the son of some old
friends in another state. Rather than buy the young couple a gift, we
instead gave them a check for $1,000. Imagine our astonishment when a
month later the following arrived in our mailbox:
“Dear ‘Loretta’ and ‘Evan,’
“Thank you for the generous donation. We really enjoyed spending that
money. If ever you feel like you have too much of it, we would gladly
take it off your hands.
“Love, ‘Mason’ and ‘Candace'”
Abby, my husband and I have worked hard for many years in our business
and have been blessed by the Lord. We are not millionaires. We were
happy and humbled to be able to share with them — until we received
this. The money wasn’t a donation; it was a gift. — STUNG IN SIOUX
DEAR STUNG: Let’s hope the note you received was an unfortunate attempt
at humor. While the message may have gone over like a lead balloon and
I’m sure the parents would be beyond embarrassed if they knew, at least
you received a thank-you for your generosity. I hear from many people
who complain that their gifts were not acknowledged at all.
Post # 3
@ajillity81: Wow… just. Wow. I get that they were trying to go for humour, but considering the person who gave them the money was an “old friend” of their parents, they probably didn’t know these people well at all.
Also, I find it really off-putting when people call cash gifts a “donation.” Am I alone in this?
Thanks for the laugh!
Post # 4
@mgol25: well i guess the donors should get a tax write off.
i have no idea how cash gifts became donations, i had never heard of that until the bee. is receiving “a gift” no longer cool?
Post # 5
@mgol25: Nope. I just cringe when I hear about couples asking for “donations” or “contributions” as if they’re in need of charity.
I will never get the reasoning that goes, “We’re so well off we have absolutely everything we want so we’re asking for donations for a luxury vacation!”
Post # 6
I read that too, but cringed thinking how one of my thank you’s might have come off wrong! We wrote so many and tried to be personal and grateful, but I’m sure someone had to be irked by one. Hopefully not enough to write to Dear Abby!
Post # 8
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
Yikes, that’s a mess….. also $1,000?!?! For a friend’s child?!? Dayummmmm
Post # 9
@ajillity81: A donation is for charity; a gift is for a wedding. I would be so pissed if I received a note like this. Has the art of being gracious been lost? I would want to cancel the cheque and they sure wouldn’t be getting another gift from me.
Post # 10
OMG. I would write back such a snarky letter. Something along the lines of:
Dear Mason’ and Candace,
We are ever so glad you appreciated the gift. Thank you so much for having us at your wedding, the prime rib was fairly average – kudos to you! Our generous gift to you was given with the intention of helping you begin your new life together. However, upon further reflection we feel it might be better put to use by investing in an ettiquette book or two.
Best of luck in your new life together. You two deserve on another!
Post # 11
wow, I have no words for this. some people are such idiots!
Post # 12
@ajillity81, @Zhabeego: Agreed. I know at the end of the day it’s all semantics, but still, the word “donation” in regards to a cash GIFT really irks me.
@JrzyGurl: +1,000,000. This is amazing.
Post # 13
WTH!!!! People are so rude!
Post # 14
Uhg… I get that the couple was going for humor but know your audience. DH and I thanked close friends and family for any “donations to the washer and dryer fund” but that was only because those people knew that’s what we were saving for.
Post # 15
@ajillity81: An “unfortunate attempt at humor”? Yeah, making unfunny, off-color jokes is what I always do when people who aren’t even in my family give me an insanely generous gift. What, do you guys actually act like you appreciate it or something?
Post # 16
@ajillity81: It’s a poor attempt at humor and a poor choice of words. It’s something they would text to their freinds, and not appropriate for older freidns of their parents.
But let these kids off the hook, they at least acknowledged the generous gift.