Post # 1
Well here I had settled on not changing my name at all even after I had questioned changing my last name to my mothers name or dropping my last name and going by my first and middle names (like I do anyway). It took me a lot of time and a lot of thought to come to the choice I made of not changing my name at all. Now this morning my Fiance tells me he’s changing HIS last name to match that of his sisters and step dad because it’s been just over a year since his dad last contacted him and that entire side of the family shut him out without any reason.
Now I’m back to square one… I think he’s also doing this so we can have the same last name because he knows how much his last name bothers me now. I feel like I have to take his new last name (but I don’t even know if that’s the worst thing in the world.)
I just don’t know what to do.
Is anyone else waiting a while to change your name (if your changing it) after you get married? I think I’d almost like to wait to hear it on him first.
Post # 3
I am in a simular dilema. I was married before and my son still has his father’s last name, while I went back to my maiden name (never liked my old married one in the first place). My son does NOT like his father and is always saying how he wants to change his last name to match mine (maiden), he even uses it when he’s here (we have joint custody). My fiance’s name starts with the same letter and I like it, however, I feel as though I might want to keep my maiden name if my son does, indeed, want to switch names when he’s 18. Or, I could hyphenate my maiden and new married one. It’s a possibility that my son would just want to take my fiance’s last name. To confuse things even further, my fiance’s last name was given to him after he was legally adopted by his step-father, LOL Confusing, I know. I still am pondering the best course of action. Thank God I have a year before I really have to decide!
Post # 4
@WndrWmn28: My son has my last name now… so that makes things even stickier for me as well… all the choices make my head spin.