(Closed) The Newlywed 9… is my husband sabotaging me???

posted 6 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
1304 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I struggle with this too.  My husband doesn’t think carbs are evil!


Post # 4
7649 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Haha my husband is very good at supporting me. I just make a different varation of what my husbands wants. So for instance if we have chicken and my husband wants it wrapped in bacon and smothered in gravy then I get out a seaprate pan and cook his in there.

When there are sweets in the house I just have to remind myself of my goal. I am on My Fitness Pal, which meals I can eat anything I want to. I just have to track what goes in my mouth and there is a limit at the end of the day. I’ve lost 12 pounds (in the last 45 days) since my wedding in July, 2 pounds less than when I walked down the aisle. The honeymoon cruise killed me. I ate SO much.

Just eat your apples and let your hubby binge. Darling Husband ate a whole thing of coconut fudge Oreos this weekend. I ate none. Will power!

Post # 5
664 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Damn. If my husband were making bacon-wrapped scallops I’d just let him go right ahead and sabbotage me all he wants. Tongue Out

Seriously though, just talk to him. He may not care about (or even notice) the extra 10lbs, so he may be oblivious to the fact that you’re worried about losing it. I think you should tell him that you really want to get to the gym more/eat healthier and ask him to support you. I’m sure he doesn’t know that he’s sabbotaging your plans. 

Post # 6
1684 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Could you possibly ask him to get things he likes that you don’t? 

For example, when I want to diet, I encourage Fiance to buy all those things that for whatever reason, I don’t crave.  For example, when he wants cookies, I encourage oreos.  When he wants icecream, I encourage him to get coffee flavored.  When he wants candy, I encourage him to get Almond Joys. 

It keeps me out of it and otherwise I do the cooking, so I can make sure what I’m eating is what I want.

Regarding the bed thing… well usually if my Fiance does that, it’s to get laid, which is a different kind of work out Wink.  Then, once we finish that, we usually want to do our own things (gym!).

Post # 7
1181 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

my Fiance is the same, only I’ve gained 50 lbs!!!

Post # 9
692 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I guess I’m lucky on that front b/c I do all the cooking, LOL.

Maybe try to get your husband involved? DH and I meet at the gym after work and egg each other on.  Since I insist on a full 35 mins on the treadmill, he’s started lengthening his routine so he doesn’t leave before I do (because I’ll tease him!)

Post # 10
1497 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I gained 15 pounds in the year after I met my fiance. He loves to eat out, he’s a great cook, and doesn’t really incorporate many fruits or vegetables into his dishes.

He’s twice my size (very tall, not fat), but he would dish out equal proportions for both of us. When I protested, he said, “You’re a growing girl.” Yeah, growing sideway, lol. 

However, I managed to lose all the weight in only 4 months with portion control. Just eat 2 bacon-wrapped scallops, instead of 10. 🙂 Fill up on the salad and good stuff first.


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