Post # 1
ok folks, time for some honesty. I have gained about 8-10 lbs since my wedding in November. I know its a combination of holidays, winter blues, and just finally being able to BREATH again after wedding and grad school stress (I had a double whammy of stress leading up to my wedding…) and now I’m just comfortable relaxing after work instead of popping in an exercise DVD and hitting the gym and eating not-so-good food, which I completely take blame for. I think I just needed a month or two (or 4 apparently) to just detox.
So last week, I dusted off my Insanity DVDs and bought plenty of decent good-for-me food, but I SWEAR my husband is set on sabotaging my efforts! I buy apples and oranges and he comes home with cookies! I eat a salad with my dinner and he’s making bacon wrapped scallops for an appetizer. I say I’m going to the gym in the morning and he whines and pulls me back under the covers. I. Swear. Its like he WANTS me fat! We lived together for a year before we were married and I never felt like he was really sabotaging me like this! LOL! He never did this stuff before!
So do any of you have advice on how you stop yourself from letting your husband sabotage you or you picking up his bad habits? Did anyone else have this happen to them or am I just a loony?
Post # 3
I struggle with this too. My husband doesn’t think carbs are evil!
Post # 4
Haha my husband is very good at supporting me. I just make a different varation of what my husbands wants. So for instance if we have chicken and my husband wants it wrapped in bacon and smothered in gravy then I get out a seaprate pan and cook his in there.
When there are sweets in the house I just have to remind myself of my goal. I am on My Fitness Pal, which meals I can eat anything I want to. I just have to track what goes in my mouth and there is a limit at the end of the day. I’ve lost 12 pounds (in the last 45 days) since my wedding in July, 2 pounds less than when I walked down the aisle. The honeymoon cruise killed me. I ate SO much.
Just eat your apples and let your hubby binge. Darling Husband ate a whole thing of coconut fudge Oreos this weekend. I ate none. Will power!
Post # 5
Damn. If my husband were making bacon-wrapped scallops I’d just let him go right ahead and sabbotage me all he wants.
Seriously though, just talk to him. He may not care about (or even notice) the extra 10lbs, so he may be oblivious to the fact that you’re worried about losing it. I think you should tell him that you really want to get to the gym more/eat healthier and ask him to support you. I’m sure he doesn’t know that he’s sabbotaging your plans.
Post # 6
Could you possibly ask him to get things he likes that you don’t?
For example, when I want to diet, I encourage Fiance to buy all those things that for whatever reason, I don’t crave. For example, when he wants cookies, I encourage oreos. When he wants icecream, I encourage him to get coffee flavored. When he wants candy, I encourage him to get Almond Joys.
It keeps me out of it and otherwise I do the cooking, so I can make sure what I’m eating is what I want.
Regarding the bed thing… well usually if my Fiance does that, it’s to get laid, which is a different kind of work out . Then, once we finish that, we usually want to do our own things (gym!).
Post # 7
my Fiance is the same, only I’ve gained 50 lbs!!!
Post # 8
I know he’s not doing this on purpose and his antics are kind of cute (for now…). I think part of it is that we were both stressed out and so relaxing was just NOT something we did the year before our wedding. Now that we have the time its like we’re both on vacation. I’ll keep reminding myself of my goals, but I have to admit, its hard to get motivated when you have a hubby who makes some delicious food and wants nothing more than to relax and spend time with you… I need to remind myself that he might not enjoy that so much when I’m losing him in fat rolls!!!! LOL!
He does buy a lot of stuff that I don’t eat and dont like but unfortunately we have a lo to shared food loves as well and that makes it hard because its not necessarily fair that I force him to stop eating things he likes for my sake. Maybe we can work something out where he keeps that stuff at his work instead of in plain sight… hmmm. good tips. Thanks all!
Post # 9
I guess I’m lucky on that front b/c I do all the cooking, LOL.
Maybe try to get your husband involved? DH and I meet at the gym after work and egg each other on. Since I insist on a full 35 mins on the treadmill, he’s started lengthening his routine so he doesn’t leave before I do (because I’ll tease him!)
Post # 10
I gained 15 pounds in the year after I met my fiance. He loves to eat out, he’s a great cook, and doesn’t really incorporate many fruits or vegetables into his dishes.
He’s twice my size (very tall, not fat), but he would dish out equal proportions for both of us. When I protested, he said, “You’re a growing girl.” Yeah, growing sideway, lol.
However, I managed to lose all the weight in only 4 months with portion control. Just eat 2 bacon-wrapped scallops, instead of 10. 🙂 Fill up on the salad and good stuff first.