(Closed) The Next Steps After Engagement? Does the wedding plannig begin?

posted 9 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
Hostess
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Congrats on getting engaged.  I think that the first thing you need to talk about is the date.  You need that in order to start planning.  It isn’t too soon to start!

Post # 4
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3344 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I think the first things to discuss are what type of wedding and reception you envision and what sort of budget you have, and from there start researching sites.  Once you find a site you can set your date.  Don’t book any vendors before you have your ceremony and reception contracts signed!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Congrats!!

Eh, do things as they feel good to you. If you feel like basking in the engagement glow and not worrying about planning, so be it!  It’ll be like sleeping in – eventually you feel like getting out of bed and starting your weekend.  For us, we were pretty sure about our location the second we got engaged, because we were already there! So once we figured that out, we asked them what they had available and they gave us a date and we gave them a deposit.  After that, we really didn’t do anything for at least a month, and that was picking out an engagement ring.  We were lazy and loving life!  No need to rush.  There are guides that may tell you there is a timeline, but really, there isn’t. 

Post # 7
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6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

First think about what month you want to get married based on the weather, prices and everyone’s schedules then think about how long you want the engagement to be. So let’s say you choose June (no reason ;)), well 2010 would be way too chaotic to plan all that right now, but June of 2011 will give you 1.5 years. But if I can give you advice, decide early and at least book your venue now b/c they get booked a year in advance sometimes and you don’t want to lose out on your date just b/c someone else was more organized than you.

We got engaged last NYE, decided right away it had to be June 2010 and were down in Philly a week later looking at venues. So we signed a contract maybe 3 weeks after getting engaged. It was very exciting!

Post # 8
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1580 posts
Bumble bee

People were jumping on my case about why I didn’t have anything planned like the week after I got engaged! My mom promptly set up appointments to check out venues the week after I got engaged. So, no, I don’t think you’re jumping the gun 🙂 Happy planning! and congrats!

Post # 9
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2226 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Congrats!!! We picked a date, went to look at venues, and bought a wedding planning book all the next day.  It’s never too soon!! Laughing

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

The sooner you can decide on a date the better. Talk about what kind of wedding (spring, summer, fall, winter, etc) you want. Once you get a date, you can start deciding what type (casual, formal, outside, inside, etc) you want so you can narrow down a venue. But I don’t think its ever too soon to pick a date! 🙂

Post # 11
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494 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I agree that the sooner the better when picking a wedding date. Venues, photographers, makeup artists all tend to book up pretty quickly especially when you hit the 6 month – 1 year mark.  We picked out a date after a week of being engaged for 8 months later.  But we also wanted to get married pretty quickly because we’ve datd for almost 7 years. So it really depends on how quickly you’re wanting to get hitched!

Post # 12
Bee
11826 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion

It really depends on your situation!  Before you got engaged did you guys talk about marriage or timelines at all?  You should have the conversation with your Fiance to at least see what he is thinking as far as the timeline goes.

Post # 13
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532 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

When you get engaged, it means you are getting married. What is the point of being engaged without planning an actual wedding? I’d talk to him about it.

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I agree that it really depends on when, date wise, you plan to get married.

I had to start planning right away because I was engaged in November and my Fiance and I decided we wanted to get married this July!  If I hadn’t started planning right away, things might not get done in time.  Especially since we are also planning for our college graduation in May as well.

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