Post # 1
Since we’ve had one huge unpleasant post in recent memory about age gaps, I wanted to shift gears a little.
Bees, what’s one of your favourite thing of having either a younger or older partner?
For me, my Darling Husband is 14 years older than I am, and I very much like that he keeps me grounded, and has often a calming influence on me brought on by his own experiences with similar issues. Also, I’m not going to lie that his smile lines are perfect.
Anyone else care to share? 🙂
Post # 2
I wouldn’t say that trait is related specifically to an age gap though.
Post # 3
My husband is my anchor in every way.
He babies me and he’s very chivalrous as well as protective. These traits are wonderful after a lifetime of experiencing abuse.
My husband is the best lover I’ve ever had. I believe that older men are much better in bed than younger men.
He is also the most generous man I’ve ever been with. He doesn’t mind spending time as well as money on anyone we care about. He will go out of his way to help anyone I love. One of my siblings is struggling financially and my husband offered my brother the opportunity to stay with us for a year to get back on his feet.
My husband is 8 years my senior.
Post # 4
zzar45 : elaborated on it a bit! Thanks. 🙂
Post # 5
Well, longevity seems to be an attribute in my family, but not so much in my husbands…. so I guess having him 5 years younger than me keeps him around longer.
Post # 6
I like that my Darling Husband is more mature than most guys around my age. He is 8 years my senior and I’m not sure we would be as happy where we are at in life if he didn’t have the maturity. It’s nice that we were both “ready” for these next steps in life.
Post # 7
Darling Husband is 2-1/2 years younger than I am, which is just perfect for me because I’ve always been immature. Additionally, the average life expectancy for women is long than for men, so I hope to be without him for a shorter time at the ends of our lives.
Post # 8
I’m not sure how to separate the attributes if his personality form.his age. I think he has the calmness, collectiveness and confidence that comes with age. He is comfortable in his skin and I think that comes with age. I don’t think we could work if both of us are lost and uncertain. he keeps me calm and orders good questions when i don’t know what to do.
Post # 9
shyqueen12 : whst a great idea 💡
Our inside joke about his age and my job while still gets us both eveytime when meeting new people and getting to tell them our fairytale.
We may have a 37 yr age gap, but we just click and both have a strong will to made the marriage work which I didn’t find with men my own age.
Also being able to be comfortable to be completely myself round him. Good days, bad days, bad hair, no make up, illness ect he has a way about him to make me feel beautiful no matter what, which is I believe through life experiences, something I didn’t feel again with men my age..
Post # 10
shyqueen12 : aw that’s nice. My guy is 9.5 years older than me, and usually we totally forget about it until we remember for some random reason. We were talking recently about Robin Williams and he asked what my favorte of his movie was, and that his was Good Morning Vietnam. I was like “Hook! And Mrs. Doubtfire!” lol
I don’t think these traits are exclusive to an older guy, but I really appreciate his confidence and sense of self… he’s super humble and sweet, but also has a self-assuredness that comes with age and experience. It’s really attractive.
We have a lot of similar interests and he’s great at teaching me things without making me feel dumb, so I appreciate that he’s had an extra 10 years to learn things so I can learn from him!
Also, he’s really good at adulting, haha. Example: he pays his mortage 2 weeks early and makes extra payments to build equity.
And yes those smile lines around his eyes are so adorable!!! <3
I don’t love the life expectancy part of it of course… but having been divorced already, I think I’m better now at really appreciating what we have while we have it, and I know that life will go on if I have a period in my life without him.
Post # 11
doglovingwife : Though I don’t have as large an age gap as you two, I do also feel so comfortable around my Darling Husband. With other men I always found like I was trying too hard, whereas my Darling Husband, even at an early stage, just accepted me.
KittyYogi : I also like my DH’s sense of self. He knows what he likes and he isn’t afraid to say so! I think that was a big thing in him asking me to marry him; he knew what he was after. 🙂
My husband is also quite good at adulting, lol. I appreciate that about him. He had lived on his own for quite awhile previous to our relationship, and was on top of things then and is now.
Post # 12
Me being about 5 years older means that I’m less likely to outlive my husband (since women have on average, longer lifespans). It means I’m less likely to have to be a caregiver for him when we are older.
It also means that he is likely more virile with healthier sperm than a man older than me, and that might be important as we TTC.
I will also certainly enjoy his having more energy for more years as well.
I see no downsides to having a younger husband.
Post # 13
shyqueen12 : yes I also like that he can adult lol. He cooks, cleans, irons and dies the DIY. Plus like you say knowing what he wanted.
Post # 14
KittyYogi : well as for the part of life with out him, we have already made a deal that I can remarry a toyboy with money lol.
On a serious note…. Its scary and sad to think about but like you said just appreciate what t we have know
Post # 15
My SO is 8 years older than me but you wouldn’t think it. He looks my age (i hope that means he has good genes) and he is very much a playful boy at times. Sometimes I struggle to believe he’s almost 40 :-p I love how he is but I’m definitely the boring grandma in our relationship. Hehe