(Closed) The night before the wedding. Where do bridal parties stay?

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

I think if you’re telling your BM’s where to stay, then you need to foot the extra money.  

I don’t care at all where my BM’s stay the night before the wedding, as long as they’re where they need to be the morning of the wedding.  My Maid/Matron of Honor is staying with me in a hotel suite, but I’m paying for it.  I’ve even told the BM’s they can stay wherever they want (they don’t need to stay in the same hotel as me).  I don’t think it matters whether the BM’s have interaction with the groomsmen – why shouldn’t they?  

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

My Bridesmaid or Best Man is staying with me and my Maid/Matron of Honor will be coming over the morning of.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

My bridesmaids and their SOs each made their own hotel arrangements.  My husband and I wanted to spend the night before our wedding together, so I didn’t care where they stayed.

A girls’ night is a great idea if that’s what everyone wants to do.  But I don’t think the bride gets to dictate where her bridesmaids stay the night before the wedding, especially if they are traveling with a SO, and especially if they can stay elsewhere for cheaper while still being on time for hair and makeup (or whatever you have planned) on the day-of.

If you want them to stay with you at the pricier B&B, you should offer to cover the additional cost.  But if they’d still rather stay with the groomsmen and other friends, I think that is there prerogative.  Why shouldn’t they hang out together before the wedding?

If you want pictures at the cuter, pricier B&B, have them meet up with you there in the morning. 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

@ahhmunduh:  Is the issue that you cannot afford the cute B&B without X number of people sharing the cost with you?

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

well 3 of my 4 bm are out of towners, so we are staying at a hotel. luckily the hotel is only half a mile from the venue!

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I think #5 is the real reason. Let it go. You have the other girls there with you. Look for the positive!

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