(Closed) The Night Before the Wedding…

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Post # 2
605 posts
Busy bee

I stayed in our bridal suite with my husband. Sleeping apart didn’t make any sense to us. We already lived together before marriage so sleeping seperately the night before the most important day of our lives seemed pretty unnecessary. We basically came back from our rehearsal dinner, got in our PJs and assembled favors that needed to be done last minute (edible). Then we watched TV and passed out. Super exciting stuff. 

Post # 3
2550 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Bben2009:  same here! Darling Husband and I slept together in our suite the night before. We have been living together for 5 yrs at that point so no reason to change it up now! It was nice getting to talk about the upcoming wedding & jitters the night before & helped settle our nerves a bit… 

Post # 4
4439 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

Bben2009:  When the rehearsal dinner ended Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man came home with me while Darling Husband stayed in the hotel we would be spending our wedding night in (after going out with the guys in our families….).  That way in the morning I was ready to get ready with my Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man and Darling Husband slept in, had lunch with his parents before he had to start getting ready.

We didn’t really do this because we didn’t want to break tradition and sleep together the night before the wedding, it was just more convenient because I needed to start getting ready early the next morning and he didn’t.  Plus, I could take my dress out of the bag and let it hang without fearing him seeing it, I could arrange the house for our vendors to come in (hair, makeup), etc.

Post # 5
3037 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast

My wedding is in May.  I’m planning on staying overnight at the venue (it has rooms) with my bridesmaids.  After the rehearsal dinner we’ll do our nails together and finish up anything else that needs to be done.  We’ll have the place the whole day friday though, so hopefully I’ll have finished decorating before rehearsal!

Previous wedding I was in the Bride got a hotel room and we (the bridesmaids) stayed with her overnight.  We did our nails and she wrote her vows.  We got ready there in the morning.

Another wedding the bridal party and friends all went after the rehearsal dinner to the reception location to do the decorating. but everyone slept at their own homes.

Post # 6
594 posts
Busy bee

ilovebacon:  This is what we’re going to do! Also – I can’t sleep without my partner in bed (I lie awake for hours), so it’s really the only option for us unless I want to be sleepy and exhausted on the big day!

Post # 7
967 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I wanted to do the girls night thing, too, but trying to get a straight answer from my bridal party was a huge pain in the ass. Darling Husband spent the night in our suite the night before (I needed it for the night so I could ready there the next morning), and it was really nice! Waking up next to him is one of my favorite memories of the day, because he was SO excited.

Post # 8
177 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Brussels, Belgium

I’m getting married Oct 18 too! Once I get into town I’ll be staying at his place so I intend to just spend the night with him. Plus there seems to be zero decent hotels close to his place. When I get up I’ll use another room to get ready. I think even for folks who didn’t live together for years the whole not seeing the bride early things is just nonsense and a tradition that’s rooted in something pretty bad. Staying with the girls you’re getting ready with makes sense though. In my case I only have one friend coming (it’s a super small wedding) so she’s staying at FI’s place too.

Post # 9
6575 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

ilovebacon:  Ditto. Darling Husband and I married in our town, and considering we’d already been living together for like 8 years at that point, we stayed together in our home the night before. We left our rehearsal and headed to the house his parents had rented for the week (they live out of town, and we live in a vacation area) to assemble the favors they brought with them. After that we headed home and went to bed. My Darling Husband got up at like 6am the morning of the wedding and left to go do whatever it was he was doing that day. My girls and I got ready at our house, and Darling Husband got ready at the house his parents rented.

FWIW, we even stayed at our home the night of the wedding. We considered renting a hotel room, but honestly, we felt like it would be a waste of money. So romantic…haha.

Post # 10
7649 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Bben2009:  I stayed in a hotel with my Maid/Matron of Honor. We went out at midnight to get me some underwear since I totally forgot. We came back and were going to have a few drinks, but I was tired and still kind of trying to accept that I was getting married. My MOH’s brother (who is my brother’s BFF), heard that I was nervous, so he came into our room in a hilarious outfit and did a dance for me. I have never laughed so hard in my life. Perfect night for me 🙂

Post # 11
2508 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I stayed at my parent’s home in my childhood bedroom, and my husband stayed in our wedding night suite (all his family was in the same hotel as they were all from out of town).  

I kind of wish I would have stayed with my husband the night before the wedding.  I definitely would have been a lot less nervous and antsy about the wedding sleeping next to him and gotten much better sleep (he is really good at easing my nerves).  However, it was super special being able to spend that last night as my “parent’s little girl” with them, and to not see my husband until walking down the aisle.  

Personally, I wouldn’t recommend a big girls night the night before the wedding.  It seems fun, but generally there is little sleeping involved, and sleep is already hard enough as it is.  I didn’t get much sleep at all, and while the adraneline eventually kicked in and I had a great time at my wedding, getting ready in the morning was seriously a drag.  

Post # 12
2946 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

We got married in my home town, about an hour and a half from our house.  The night before, Darling Husband spent the night in the hotel with some of the wedding party, while Maid/Matron of Honor and I spend the night at my parents house.  I am actually glad we did it this way.  DH’s family from out of town was at the same hotel, and it sounds like Darling Husband and family closed down the place (they turned the lights on the patio off on them)  I on the other hand must have my sleep or I will be evil, and my parent’s farm was rather easy to sleep at.  

Post # 13
1110 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Bben2009:  Our venue is the hotel our out of town guests are staying at, so we’ll be at the bar hanging out with them after the rehearsal dinner.  The hotel includes a stay in the bridal suite the night before as well, so I’ll be staying there with my 2 bridesmaids and Fiance will go back home to be with our dog and to bring any last minute items the next day.  

Post # 14
4885 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Good post! I had debated getting our honeymoon suite for the night before so my sister (MOH) and I could stay in, but I felt it was a waste of money and I felt more comfortable getting ready (make-up mainly) at my own home. Sometimes hotel lighting is so bad!

I’m sure Fiance will stay there as well, so I’ll just get up that morning – do my make-up, pack for the night, be on my way… and see him when we meet that morning for first look!

Post # 15
2495 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Our wedding was in another state so everyone stayed in hotels. My parents had a room right next to ours, and Darling Husband and I stayed the night together. It was perfect for us.

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