- 7 years ago
- Wedding: July 2015
I need some advice….
Truth is I cannot write this with dry eyes…..
To begin, I am writing this under a different alias in order to keep my identity secret. My Fiance and I have been engaged for a while and we are finally getting closer and closer to our wedding date. We were both so incredibly excited. However, I don’t know that I want a big wedding anymore….I just don’t feel like I can be excited about it.
It’s hard for me to admit this but, I just found out my dad has been cheating on my mom after 25 years of marriage…..I am upset, hurt, and have no clue what to do.
You see, my dad travels all the time for work and the majority of the year is away on business in other countries. I have sat here and watched how much my mom misses him when he is away and how much it has torn our family apart that he is gone so much.
Before I found out, I defended him when my mom would accuse him of not wanting to be apart of our family. I would remind her that he was missing his family and wishing he was at home, and now I just feel like an idiot. I am so stupid. I feel like he cheated on all of us.
He has apparently been lying to my mom and to everyone for a while now. The things that she has told me he has done, make me hate him. To make matters worse, I run the Marketing department for his firm. You would think I would have noticed him sneaking around….All I want to do is quit now….(but then I’ve lost my family AND my job)
I am going to refrain from going into a great deal of detail, but when my mom found out, she decided to swallow her pride and forgive him for our family. She gave him the chance to cut it off and move on together, but I think he is still seeing this woman. Because of this she wants a divorce.
The way this is hurting my mom is tearing me to pieces.
I just don’t feel like I want the wedding we were planning now. I dont want him to walk me down the aisle. The daddy-daughter dance makes me cry just thinking about it, and I just….I don’t know….feel like I shouldn’t be so happy about getting married when everything around me is falling to pieces. It’s not supposed to be like this….why is this happening?
My Fiance is still the man of my dreams, and I still want to marry him; I just don’t feel like I want this wedding anymore…..What would you do bees? What should I do? He doesn’t know that my mom has told me all this….I want to say something so bad it hurts, but I don’t want to upset the situation further.
Thanks In Advance