(Closed) The non-traditional route

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
466 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011 - Sweet ceremony by the sea and sunset celebration on the North Shore of Hawaii

Amen, sister. 🙂

We had a non traditional destination wedding and it was highly personal, full of love and so much fun. We thought of it as the ultimate celebration of our love and new life together….and we wanted to create our own traditions,

So excited for you and can’t wait to hear more!

Post # 4
904 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We keep getting comments about not having a traditional wedding because:

It’s on a Friday
We have two groomswomen
We’re having lots of appetizers instead of a meal
Our friend is getting ordained to marry us instead of someone from a church

It’s mostly my Future Mother-In-Law who keeps offering weird things to do she thinks is funny because our wedding, “will be weird anyway”. Which I keep getting annoyed with. We aren’t even doing things that are that different. Oh well.


Post # 5
1073 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Lots of things non-traditional at my wedding. My FIs mothers all questiony about my wiccan religion and the hand fasting and officant we will be haveing at the wedding. No bouquet toss, no garter dance. Reception and cermony at same place even though i know some of our family would perfeer us get married in a church. Sometimes it makes me nuts cause its not their wedding, its what the couple wants not what they want. I know my mom is haveing trouble wrapping her head around that at some points. 

Post # 6
686 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We are having a carnival where we just happen to be getting married – I don’t even like to call it a wedding but it is going to be so much fun! 🙂

Post # 7
6892 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Ours isn’t super non-traditional, but we’re walking down the aisle together and have gotten lots of mixed reviews. Why? I’m not close to my dad and we feel it represents our relationship. We’re also having a pretty low budget, DIY-ish wedding and some of the snide, “Oh, well my coordinator took care of that,” makes me roll my eyes.

Post # 8
171 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I don’t even know where to begin.  Our wedding has caused a lot of shock and to be honest I’m not even entirely sure why.  It’s only slightly non-traditional yet people’s reactions are somewhat of horror, lol  And the reason why I am going somewhat non-traditional is because it’s about us getting married, not some big fancy party which I think a lot of brides lose sight of.  Also, a simpler wedding suites my Fiance and I much better.  We’re pretty simple, low maintenance people.    

 My e-ring is peridot (bright green), not diamond

My rings, and his band were bought online

His ring has a wooden inlay

Our wedding is on a Sunday morning at 11:30am.  “But what about nap time for those (my sister) who have nappers?”  Seriously mom?  You want me to plan my wedding around naptime?  My sister and her husband didn’t seem to care nearly as much as my mom did.    

We are serving breakfast foods, juices and coffee only (water too of course)

Cheesecake instead of traditional wedding cake

No dancing

No alcohol

A friend is taking our pictures, not a professional photographer

No bridal/wedding party, this mean no maid of honor or best man either.  When I tell people this they get a super confused look on their face and undoubtedly say “well you need someone to stand up and be your witnesses, who is going to sign your marriage certificate?”  Ummm… how about ANY of the 60 adult guests who just witnessed the ceremony?  Duh.

Our invites are seal-n-sends

My bridal bouquet is going to be fake.

No boutonniere for the groom

No wedding gifts to be exchanged between me and the groom much to the dismay of his mom

No favors for the guests

No special cake cutting/serving set

No toasting flutes

No bridal showers

My brother-in-law is going to marry us

Our honeymoon is at a B&B that is approximately 1 hour away from where we live 

Oh and finally, we just got engaged in Jan 2012 and are getting married this May 2012.  Apparently a short engagement means I must be pregnant because why else would someone want such a short engagement?  This is hilarious to Fiance and I because we aren’t planning on having kids.  So definitely not pregnant. 

The horrors! 







Post # 9
705 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I’m sure we’ll get some raised eyebrows but I’m trying really hard to keep the base of the wedding as something that the less offbeat family members will recognize and be ok with.  The details and whatnot are going to be what’s not really very traditional.  

I’m wearing a Wai Ching dress so it’s totally not white.

Our first dance is to an old ska song that is important to us.

Both of my parents are walking me down the ‘aisle’.

Guests will be seated for the reception during the ceremony.

The ceremony will be officiated by a good friend and will be about 15 minutes long.

Tacos from a local taco truck will be the dinner served.  

There will be gaming dice in the centerpieces.

There will be no bouquet or garter toss.

There will probably be cheesecake, cakeballs and cupcakes instead of a wedding cake.

There will be no flowers–bouquets, corsages and bouts are going to be made of feathers.

Post # 10
1575 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Oh that’s easy! I am NOT your traditional bride – I am 54 and getting married for the third time. It will be a very  unique wedding for sure but we have a lot to celebrate and celebrate we shall!

Post # 11
3771 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

Honestly all these things have been done, now a days I think it more expected to do different things then the traditional wedding. Go with your guts and the style that you like. Make the day as fitting for you and Fiance as possible and it will turn out great.

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