- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2015
So we’ve all heard the stories, seen the movies and know the play. Boy meets girl, they fall in love, he puts a ring on her finger and everyone magically congratulates them. She feels like a marvellous glorious princess and all he can think about it sweeping his bride off her feet.
Ok Bees. The jig is up. No one ever told me this so I am here to say it: it’s not all sparkles and stuff. It’s not all magical, it’s not all glamorous and fun. It’s just not.
First step, now that you have that ring on your finger, is to tell everyone that is important to you. I suggest making a list or something. And then prioritize it other wise your big brother will be ticked that your little brother found out first (true story.. And I wasnt even the one to tell the little bro, my sdad blurted it out accidentally) Then you have to figure out how to word the conversation. When you think about it in theory it’s all exciting but when you get down to it, it’s a lot of work!
And then, while you’re trying to get the message to all your loved ones in a graceful way, you have to trudge the waters of social media. I always knew I would NOT run to Facebook and change my relationship status. No judgement or anything but for me personaly, it’s tacky. I don’t want my Grandma or something to find out throufg the grapevine (I called her right away thougj, dont worry!) eventually it’ll change but no rush for me. So there has been Not a single thing about it on Facebook.. Total silence. And Today I log on and my aunt has commented “CONGRATS LEE” on my profile pic. I haven’t even managed to call her yet, Gma must have told her. And youd think with two phd’s she’d be smart of enough to see my radio silence and not publicly congratulate me!!
Honestly, I even kind of finally undertand people’s urge to just post it on Facebook. Then at least it’s done, you’re not trying to wade through the waters of announcements. I seriously had no idea how much thought and work was going to go into just telling people we’re going to get married!
All the while, now you have Mom. She is so excited for her little girl she just cannot contain herself. She knew first and as soon as we made it officially, she got on spreading the news. Half of me is happy to let her do it, the other half wants to be able to myself. And she is just so darn excited, all I ever hear about now is wedding this and wedding that. Honesty, I have too much school on my plate to plan a wedding right this minute.. But she’s just so pumped up and I cannot calm her down!
Even the ring. I love my ring. Like, to a million tiny pieces. But sometimes, I feel like people think I’m flaunting it. Maybe I’m too conscious of it.. I almost try to keep my hand quiet and out of sight so people don’t feel like I’m flashing it at them.
Dont get me wrong, I am beyond the moon excited to marry my best friend and I can’t wait to be his wife. I just kind of wish we could skip thia semi-awkward step!
How about it Bees? What were the less than glamorous side effects of getting engaged for you?