- 8 years ago
- Wedding: July 2010
All of my BMs except for one are college friends who all know each other. The other Bridesmaid or Best Man is my Matron of Honor – one of my besties from high school. So my Maid of Honor has been planning my bachelorette in secret like we agreed. I gave her two rules – that we get out of NYC and that she try her best to get everyone I want there to come. She started planning it long time in advance so that it would be easier to coordinate everyone’s schedules and figure out a weekend that would work. I’ve got girls flying in from across the country so basically a plan needed to be in place way early for it to work out. Other than that, I said, just talk amongst yourselves and surprise me.
So I had dinner with my MaidOH on friday night and, without spilling the deets, she basically told me that my MatronOH has been really difficult with everyone throughout the planning process. She’s got a really strong opinionated personality so it didn’t come as a total surprise to me, but when she was telling me some of the stuff she was suggesting I started to get a little aggravated because basically what MatronOH was suggesting we do did not at all fit in with the only two things I actually asked for. For example she wanted to plan something IN NEW YORK for ONE NIGHT. I’ve got a girl flying in from friggin New Mexico, OK? It’s kind of not cool to make someone spend a lot of money for like a few hours.
Apparently she also got kind of aggro with my MaidOH about money and didn’t trust her when she said it would cost X amount. MatronOH kept saying oh well it will end up costing X more than that and my Maid just basically had to keep saying (as nicely as she could) NO WE FIGURED IT OUT TO THE DOLLAR. The amount I gave you is what it will be – no more than that. So she’s been difficult on that and then apparently she started up with planning the shower and how they all need to do that as well. I never asked them to do a shower and I didn’t want them to because I know not everyone is rolling in money and I don’t want them to feel responsible for it. So I told MaidOH listen – this is what I want to do. Let’s just all get together and do a potluck or wine and cheese type thing ay my parents house. We don’t have to rent any space. It will be on the cheap cause we can all just make some food and whatever. It doesn’t need to be a big deal. But now I’m paranoid that MatronOH is going to take issue with that. I love her, but she didn’t listen to what I wanted for the bachelorette and apparently feels strongly that they need to do something even though I said I didn’t want them to.
My concern here is that the rest of the BMs are going to just be totally fed up with her soon and end up not getting along. As of right now the ones that have met her LIKE her but they’re starting to get really annoyed. At the same time, I want nothing to do with it and don’t want to get involved because technically I’m not supposed to know anything about any of this. Thoughts?