The ol' every day vs. every other day debate

posted 3 years ago in TTC
  • poll: When TTC, did you BD every day or every other day?

    Every other day and it resulted in a BFP

    Every other day, but no luck yet

    Every day and it resulted in a BFP

    Every day, but no luck yet

    Other (I'll explain below)

  • Post # 2
    7811 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 1997

    We went every other day, but then again, I was using ovulation strips, so we would sometimes adjust based on that. It took me very little time to conceive. Indeed, I went to my dr. after we had not conceived in three months (I know now that is ridiculous, but didn’t realize at the time) just to make sure nothing was wrong, and it turned out I was pregnant at the time. Honestly, I think the difference between every day and every other day is negligible. Good luck!

    Post # 3
    9388 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2016

    We TTC for 11 cycles or so (13 months, but some were super long).

    Two of those resulted in pregnancies. Both times we did something like EOD.. I say something like cus there definitely were some days were we TTC two days in a row, then we would take a day off, etc..

    Some months trying we BDed daily, some EOD.. the actual stats I’ve read shows basically.. they’re equally good.

    Post # 4
    465 posts
    Helper bee

    We were ttc for a long while, about a year & a half but we had some underlying issues. My dh also had a normal but not high count and border line low morph, so we tried every frequency, every day, every other day, saving up for a few days etc! We conceived (unfortunately ended in ectopic 3 wks ago) after bd’ing 5 days in a row, 4 days before ov & day of. Dh had been taking lots of supplements to improve his count & morph so his numbers could have been very good at that point. So in the end every day worked for us. 

    Post # 5
    3482 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    It took us 2.5 years to get pregnant with DS. The month we did we DTD 3 times. We were just lucky that one of those 3 hit the mark. We didn’t think it would happen that month and we were due to start IVF the next cycle.

    It took us 6 months to get pregnant this time and the month we did, we DTD every day over my fertile window.

    Post # 6
    4377 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Our RE backed up what your research said: EOD is only “necessary” if he has issues.

    That being said, my first pregnancy came from every second day (we had sex at 0-4 and o-2, pretty sure o-2 was what did it). The second we only had sex on the day I ovulated.

    I really don’t think it will be the thing that makes a difference, unless as you said DH has issues. I’d go with what you’re comfortable with.

    Post # 7
    2175 posts
    Buzzing bee

    The month I got a BFP was the one where I think we only BD once during my FW. We’ve tried EOD and as close to ED as we can make happen without luck since then. 

    Statistically, both are good strategies. If you have the energy for ED, there isn’t much evidence to suggest you should wait in between.

    Post # 8
    499 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

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    jcud4 :  honestly I think it’s just luck of the draw. We concieved after four months, and we tried every day one month, every other day another month, and neither resulted in a positive! On the month we concieved, I don’t even know what our pattern was because I had a pap smear booked on cd12 and we just bd around that. Hang on, I just found the chart for that month for you (it was also the only month I charted and as you can see, I didn’t get a positive opk that month so I don’t really know when I ovulated). I reckon just have sex when you feel like it but at least every 2-3 days.

    Good luck!

    Post # 9
    4250 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY

    I’m entering my fertile window later this week and wasn’t sure about every day or every other day. I have no reason to believe that my husband has issues with his sperm but we don’t know.  He’s a healthy 40 something and my doctors did not seem to be concerned about his age but did recommend every other day. So I kinda planned for that, but will probably just go with the flow, so to speak. 

    Post # 10
    1120 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    We have been TTC for 15 cycles with one BFP (which unfortunately ended in MC). We’ve essentially been on an EOD schedule the whole time because we just don’t have the energy for ED these days 😉 The month we got our BFP, D.H. wasn’t feeling well and we only hit O-4 and O. Go figure 🤷🏻‍♀️ 

    Post # 11
    7439 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    We ttc’d for 5 cycles and I was temping and using OPKs the whole time. The first cycle, we bd’d EOD during my fertile window and I didn’t get pregnant. The next four cycles we hit every day from O-3 through O+1 each time, and I got pregnant every time. (I had a miscarriage followed by two CPs, followed by my sticky BFP). So I’m kinda a believer in doing it every day if you can, but that might just be superstition. I think statistically the odds are pretty much the same either way.

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