Post # 16
- Wedding: June 2017 - A vineyard
mrsziggy : Yes I thought that’s what you meant. My pianist did my wedding ceremony and reception is what I was saying. I only hired one person for both and I loved it. My wedding and reception just weren’t long because of the heat. He played the whole time though. So for me a classical band or soloist is still my preference for all of it. But again, if dancing is what you want at your reception a dj might be better for you. 🙂
Post # 17
Update: We had my mom over for dinner last night because she wanted to discuss wedding planning stuff, and I think now my parents are starting to be more okay with the idea of having a DJ, after they found out that the band they had in mind is already booked for our wedding date and would be outrageously expensive anyway.
My fiance has worked as a DJ and karaoke host for 9 years, so he has a lot of contacts in the business and has high standards. After hearing his opinions, I think my parents trust him more to select a DJ who is professional, has personality without being cheesy, and will be good at reading the crowd and adjusting well for the acoustics in the space.
We want to play a somewhat eclectic variety of music — mainly oldies and country, but also some polka for my German family members (which I posted about in a previous thread), and a little bit of older alternative stuff from the 90s/00s (like Blink 182, Sum 41, Offspring… we’re former punk/emo kids, and a lot of our friends are too, lol). We’re not too much into rap or current pop hits, so we will have almost none of that, except maybe to throw in a few fun songs to get people on the dance floor. We’re thinking a DJ is probably the best option to balance all of that.
However, one of my uncles plays in a country cover band; we’ve gone to see them play at local bars, and they performed for about an hour at my cousin’s (his daughter’s) wedding a couple years ago, and they’re very good. So we’re considering having them for awhile. The only thing is that at my cousin’s wedding, people didn’t really dance to the band, more just kind of listened and clapped along and treated it more like a concert. All the same family members will be at my wedding, so the not-dancing is a bit of a concern. But we are still considering having my uncle’s band for part of the time, since we want to hear a lot of country anyway. So that might be a good compromise to at least fill up the stage for awhile and get the energy of a band while still hearing the music we want to hear.
Post # 18
DappledDuchess : Ah okay, thanks for clarifying! That actually sounds really lovely. But most of our friends are big partiers and I’m sure they will want dancing at some point, so yeah, you’re probably right that a DJ would be the best option for that.
Post # 19
Bands, all the way. They give a wedding a much more classy feel and encourage even the older guests to get out on the dance floor and moving. Our friends love to dance and party, and we know the band is the best fit for them. We will get our rap fill when the band takes breaks and puts music on, and after the band has left and a DJ takes over.
Post # 20
I think the different you’re seeing here is the difference between a band who normally performs a concert and bands that normally perform for dance parties, like wedding bands. Like a good DJ, a good wedding band will know exactly how to get the crowd going and will encourage dancing vs. your uncle’s band, who I’m sure is great, that doesn’t typically do dance parties for a living
Post # 21
We are having the best of both worlds! A live band for cocktail hour and dinner and a DJ for the dancing!
Post # 22
I hate bands – they are always way too loud, full of themselves and play their own music only, and have no vibe whatsoever. You can’t dance to them, nor can you talk.
A DJ gets people dancing – a band usually sends me straight to my hotel room to watch TV on my phone……
Post # 23
- Wedding: August 2020 - Hampton, VA
We will definitely be having a DJ. FH is Mexican and he will want some classic corridos played. I love oldies. We both like new hits. So we will really want a wide variety of music to dance to.
My dad is a pro musician so it’s not like I don’t appreciate live music, but I think variety to appeal to every one of our guests is best.
Post # 24
mrsziggy : It’s funny you say polka- that’s one of the main reasons I made my own playlist for our band’s breaks! Had to get that polka in there. Also the Chicken Dance- which I know is a staple on many brides’ “Do Not Play” lists but I had to have it. (It got plenty of people out on the dance floor, too!)
I think given what you’re looking for as well as your FI’s connections a DJ is the right choice for you. Sounds like it’ll be a great wedding!
Post # 25
I’ve been both types of weddings. I think a good band can be quite entertaining and add a lot to the ambiance of the party. But heavy emphasis on the word good and those I know that opted for this splurged. We’ll probably go DJ because we’re rather particular about the songs we want played and, like you, I worry no band would have that kind of range. Also it’s not something we feel super strongly about so I’d rather safe the $$$ to spend in other areas.
Post # 26
I am forever till the end of time on team band. I love live music. We had a bluegrass quartet for our ceremony and happy hour, and a full funk band with horns at the recepetion. People loved it.
Post # 27
AnonBee2019 : That is a very good point about concert bands vs. wedding bands, which I hadn’t thought of, so thanks for pointing that out! I’ll mention that in future discussions with my fiance and parents.
MrsBuesleBee : A bluegrass quartet would be awesome! Your wedding sounds like it was a blast!
Post # 28
Hi Mrs Ziggy,
Most bands that play weddings also provide a DJ service. If you book a band they will normally play for no more than two hours overall and the rest of the night they then provide a DJ service at a small additional fee (much cheaper than a separate DJ), or even for no extra charge. This means there is no changeover of equipment between the band and the DJ parts of the evening.
I’m perhaps a little biased because I run a wedding band, but I’m not trying to get you to book me as I’m in the UK! My experience after playing at 100s of weddings is that the night tends to run like this when there is a band with DJ service included:
early evening: band offers DJ service. Noone dances apart from a few women every now and then if a favourite song is played.
mid evening: band plays first set. The dancefloor is at least half full for entire time. For some reason guests love to dance to live music – it’s like a magic spell.
mid evening: band break after first set and DJ music played: dancefloor empties, people go off and chat get drinks maybe get buffet food etc. Virtually noone dances to the DJ music.
late evening: band plays second set: dancefloor busy entire time and full at the end.
final part of evening: DJ service again. Dancefloor busy.
good luck with it whatever you choose!
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