(Closed) The old head table debate

posted 10 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Spouses/plus-ones at the head table?

    No, it's just for the wedding party

    Yes, don't exclude anyone

  • Post # 18
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    Helper bee

    @Statutory Grape: I say since your wedding party is so small it’s ok to include the spouses.. Since I have 5 on each side, there is no way I would want a head table 22 people long! 🙂

    Post # 19
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    Like SoonToBeMrs.Kiss, we are doing a sweetheart table. We are getting married on a yacht and the largest tables they have fits 8 people, max. So FH & I didn’t want to have to worry about choosing who to sit with (my family or his), so we decided a sweetheart table is the best option for us. We will seat people in groups of who they know, so the bridal party is going to be at a few different tables.

    Post # 20
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I abhor head tables and am kinda meh about sweetheart tables; they both look funny to me.  We will likely just sit at a regular table with friends.

    Post # 21
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    we didn’t have a head table. we had a sweetheart and then just sat our wedding party with their family and friends.

    but coming from someone who was recently in a wedding and who’s hubby was in a wedding where spouses were not included at the head table, i would include them. especially if their spouses don’t know anybody else at the wedding.

    Post # 22
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Ugh, if you only have 3 on each side, definitely include the SO’s.  I am totally loathing a wedding I have to go to tomorrow because Fiance is in it and I know how much I will be left alone.  We are including the SO’s in the limo ride and at our table.  But we’re not having at traditional head table, we’re doing Hibachi which seats 10 to a table and 2 tables face each other kind of making one big one for 20.

    Post # 23
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    We are having a sweetheart table mostly because it would be uncomfortable for our wedding party to be seated without their spouses.  That’s just our personal preference, especially since we have a few distinct groups of friends and our wedding party crosses all of these sections!

     

    My Fiance is in a wedding in October where I will only know the groom, another Groomsmen and my Fiance. I am reeeeaaaally hoping they have a sweetheart table so that I won’t have to be all alone;)

    Post # 25
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    It’s definitely a little awkward to be the “left behind” guest while your SO sits at the head table. 

    Post # 26
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    We had a traditional head table! I have been without my Fiance during dinner at weddings and think it’s a great opportunity to get to know other people at the wedding! None of our wedding party’s dates had a problem with it. And after dinner no one was sitting down anyway!

    Post # 27
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    We have the same party size as you, and I think we can do the headtable with spouses. One of the SO’s has 3 kids though, so…. oy. We are having a kids table but one of them will be an infant. And she’s the type to breastfeed in the middle of the wedding. I don’t want to think about it!!

    Post # 28
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    We are doing a sweetheart table, so thank GOD we don’t have to worry about this. PS: That’s the way the venue does it so I did’nt “decide” on the sweetheart idea either.

    Post # 29
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    my sister said she was at a wedding recently where the separated people at the head table, and it made the guests/bridal party pretty upset!! I would include the SO!

    However, i am personally going to request a sweetheart table and not a head table, because fiance and I want it to be about us and have special time together:)

    Post # 30
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    I hate the look of a head table…. We might do a sweetheart table, or have a regular 8-person table with our parents. We haven’t decided yet.

    Post # 31
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    if you are doing a head table its bridal party only not plus ones. which is why we are doing sweetheart table instead.

    i hate hate  hate being a date for wedding and having to sit with strangers because my FH is in the bridal party. so we are doing sweetheart and seating our bridal party with their dates.

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