Post # 1
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Bumble bee
when your husband wants to surprise you for christmas – yet YOU are the one who does the bills…and yeah what he bought you is in the checking account ledger online. 🙁
I feel bad (although excited! lol) but I feel bad…I was balancing out my spreadsheets where I keep our budget and I saw an expense to the Indianapolis Symphony!!!
I’ve been wanting to do something like that for YEARS now with him and I’m so excited and happy – but seriously was really wanting wherever it was he was taking me tomorrow night to be a surprise (I knew we were going somewhere just didn’t know what/where)…
Dangit I really wish I hadn’t seen that! or that it had just said some generic store or something…
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
Ugh that sucks!!! This is one of the reasons I keep going back and forth about having a joint account. I think we’ll have separate accounts at least for gifts and little stuff.
Post # 4
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Busy bee
- Wedding: March 2010 - Ritz-Carlton, Half Moon Bay
oh, i can understand how that is a little disappointing–on the bright side, it gives you more time to build up excitement! that’s a really nice gift. perhaps as corgi mentioned, you guys could each have small separate accounts for gifts?
Post # 5
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Bumble bee
Yeah, I found this out as well when I was getting Fiance his gift. I managed to keep it a surprise by using my dad’s credit card and paying him back so the charge didn’t show up on our joint records.
Post # 6
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Sugar bee
haha. That is the only one bad thing. We usually tell each other so that we won’t check the account until the event. Usually he’ll tell me as he’s about to purchase something so that I can check the account beforehand and make sure everything’s good. 🙂
Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
i know, i had that problem too, but he’s the one who deals with the bills. luckily my grandma is consistantly supplying me with cash whenever i visit so i save that up for his presents.
Post # 8
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Worker bee
I buy prepaid VIsa or Mastercard, so I can purchase his gift online without his knowledge.
Post # 9
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Sugar bee
Yeah….that’s why we have a joint account and we each have an individual account. But when he bought my birthday present a few weeks ago, he used the joint account! Doh! He got me tickets to see the Nutcracker Ballet but luckily it didn’t say exactly what it was for. But I knew it was for a concert or something.
Post # 10
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Honey bee
Lol. That’s exactly why we also have our own seperate accounts along with our joint accounts! Plus our own credit cards 🙂
Post # 11
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Honey bee
Bummer! My Fiance isn’t too great with keeping secrets either. At least its a gift you’ll love, imagine trying to feign surprise and excitement if you weren’t into the gift at all? Yikes. You guys will have a wonderful time anyway, enjoy!
Post # 12
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Bumble bee
actually – he’s usually great at keeping surprises from me! but he should know better that with how I am with our money and accounts that I’d see it…of course I’m now regretting the text I immediately sent to him saying “hey that thing for tomorrow night is in our checking account…” but I was more upset that the $$ came out of there because we’re on a very tight budget with that account. 😛
oh well – it’ll be awesome, I know! I’m not by any means upset about WHERE he’s taking me and in fact am very excited! I just wish I’d have been able to be surprised tomorrow night instead of this morning, lol.
Post # 13
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Helper bee
This is one of the reasons we are setting up a joint account for bills but will keep our own seperate accounts for our spending money. 🙂
Post # 14
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Bumble bee
haha. he just texted back saying “yeah I knew you’d see it…” so at least he’s not mad – but I still wish it could have been more of a surprise. oh well – it’s all good and YAY! I’m going to the symphony tomorrow night!!!!!!!!
I absolutely LOVE christmas music and it’s actually a “broadway-christmas extravaganza” and he knows how much I also LOVE musical theatre and broadway! hehe. so yeah…very excited!!!! i have an incredible husband! course I can always pretend to be surprised tomorrow night, lol. 😛
he did just ask “allright then, since you now know – where do you wanna go for dinner?” and I told him to surprise me with wherever he chooses for that, at least! lol
Post # 15
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Honey bee
We’ll probably always have seperate accounts. We spend and save money so differently that we’ll probably just have one account for the house and keep everything else seperate. It’s easier that way, and I don’t like ruining surprises!
Post # 16
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Busy bee
Yeah, that’s a bad thing about a joint account… sorry your surprise got ruined!
Another bad thing is when your husband checks the account and finds out how often you eat Chipotle for lunch! 
