Post # 1
alright, i’ve been a lurker here for months now and thought it was time to join the conversation! 🙂
I read so much about people knowing “the one” in two contexts: grooms and dresses. I was wondering if anyone else had this experience with a venue? I just looked at my first venue on wednesday and i LOVE it. Its a little Bistro and its actually in a shopping center, so right off I didn’t think it would be that great. But the inside is adorable. What really sold me was the people; they seemed ridiculously excited about my wedding, wanted to know all about my fiance and I. We ended up staying for nearly two hours pondering decorating ideas and chowing down on ridiculous amounts of free food (which was soooo good). Its also going to be an amazing deal. The only problem is that its my first venue, and my mother is convinced I need to look at every one in the area (including places that are completely not what we have in mind). I’m really not enthused about this because i feel as though i’ve already 100% made my decision and i’m just going through the motions..plus i don’t want to wait and not get the date we have in mind.
so, how many venues did the rest of you bees look at? Did anyone else know “the one” and keep looking anyway?
Post # 3
We were lucky because we got “the one” feeling at the last venue we saw. But it was undeniable and I think even if it was the first one we saw we would have felt the same. We looked at five total, but that was after A LOT of internet research to narrow down options on price, location, etc.
I do think it would be worth your while to go out and investigate at least one or two additional venues just to be sure you are picking the right one. If you can view them right away it is very unlikely that your first choice will book quickly. I have learned in this process that sometimes it is worth it to make some minor compromises to make people (like your mom) happy. For all you know, you could see another venue and decide that it is even better!
Post # 4
When the Mr. & me were first dating we went on a behind the scenes tour of the local seaside amusement park in my hometown. When we walked thru the banquet areas he said this would be a nice place to get married, I at the time wasn’t sold. At the time we weren’t even engaged but after we got engaged I set-up a few places to tour and we looked at it again. We both fell in love with our historic seaside locale. There was just something sweet, simple, and romantic about it. Plus I was sold on photos on the beach!
Finding a venue is tough, especially if the food and drinks are included since it can break a budget. It’s also tough looking at an empty room or empty grounds to try to imagine a wedding taking place. Ask to see photos of past weddings and it may help you visualize your’s. Good luck!
Post # 5
We looked at 5 or 6 venues- we got that feeling at our last one. It was actually one that my husband didn’t think would work, so we crossed it off the list early. My Mother-In-Law was helping me research later on and suggested to check it out in person. We got that feeling. I didn’t have that feeling with my dress, but I did with our venue!
Post # 6
Sadly, our “one” was way out of our price range. BUT!… cause there is always a “but”… we did get “the one” feeling about our venue when we were looking at venues in our price range. We need we could work with it!
Post # 7
I definitely got that feeling at the venue we chose, but I kept looking at other options just so I could compare. It just reaffirmed that I really wanted to book the place that we ending up choosing.
Post # 8
We definitely had that feeling…it was the 6th of 8 venues that we looked at and it actually wasn’t even on our list (we went to the last two because we had appointments but our mind was made up!)
At one venue we asked them if they had any suggestions for a rehearsal dinner spot and they told us about a restaurant they liked. We went to scout it out and fell in love with the whole place – it’s a mountain inn with a restaurant for the reception, condos for accomodations and ceremony sites with amazing views. We weren’t looking for it, but walking around the grounds we knew it was the right place for us.
Post # 9
I looked at 3 venues (we went with the first one we saw) and I have zero regrets. If you are 100% sure that this place meets all of your requirements (and be honest with yourself – I really loved one place, but it was just too small, and it took me a little while to stop ignoring the size issue), go for it!
Post # 10
We looked at almost 20 venues online, and actually went to see 8 of them. The first venue we saw was “love at first sight” for me — I got all excited and started coming up with all sorts of ideas– until we sat down and did the math. It was just not going to fit within our budget. So I ended up letting it go, which was an extremely hard and emotional experience.
The next couple venues just didn’t seem to meet my expectations. It was after we decided clearly what our budget was and how far from where we live are we willing to have the wedding, that opened tons of options for lovely venues that was also within our budget. The venue we ended up choosing was actually not part of the list, but we just dropped by since we were in the area and was blown away by its beauty. And they offered great deals for a Sunday wedding, so it totally fit our budget. I think it was then when really started seeing myself getting married there. It was “the one” because everything about it was just so perfect, fit my theme and my vision, and I felt completely blessed about it. So glad the first venue fell through b/c this one is waaaaaay better!
If your first venue fits your budget and what you envision about your wedding, I’d say go for it!
Post # 11
I absolutely had “the one” feeling with our venue too! It was the 1st place and I just about died when we walked in. But we decided to continue looking, but we both caught ourselves comparing everything to the first one! We obviously ended up going with it. 🙂 I hope the same thing happens with the dress search!
Post # 12
thanks for all of your quick feedback! I guess I should be grateful that the one I want is in my budget. I’ll just look at two more to appease my mother i guess. 🙂
Post # 13
we looked at a million venues before we found our one. literally, months of searching. finally we walked into the venue and both said it was it!
but for everything else, if i find it i normally would stop looking. there’s too much to do for the wedding to spend extra time researching and driving around (unless you have a super long engagement). my dress was the 3rd one i tried on, and then i was finished because i knew.
Post # 14
We looked at tons and tons of venues online. Once we narrowed down our list (available on our date, could accomidate our number of guests, in our price range, etce), we visited a dozen venues. We narrowed it down to 5 and were planning on taking our Mom’s to see our finalists. Two nights before we were go to see our top choices a venue we hadn’t originally looked at called to tell me they had an opening on our date. The following morning I went to the venue and loved it. I called Fiance and was just giddy. We added it to the mix and he and I both had the one feeling.
Post # 15
I had “the one” feeling about three things: The groom, the photographer and the venue 🙂 Nope, not the dress or anything else. Photog and venue were my favorite vendors, and the rest, eh, they were fine. Except maybe my hair/make-up peeps. They were awesome.
I’ve adored my venue for the longest time. It’s just an amazing place and very unique. I think I would have cried if it had been out of our price range (luckily, it was way, way under).