(Closed) The one little thing that just grinds your gears…

posted 6 years ago in Beehive
Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Milibee13:  Snobby people who ask why I am doing all my flowers with real touch/silk flowers instead of using real ones.

Post # 17
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

duplicate post- sorry

  • This reply was modified 5 years, 6 months ago by  SparkleBee11.
Post # 18
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Our wedding is June 14th. Many people have commented about it being Flag Day.  I hate that comment so much because I have absolutely no clue how to respond to them. All I can manage is yup it is…

Post # 20
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325 posts
Helper bee

ren89:  This is my biggest pet peeve so far also – just with my Future Sister-In-Law instead of Maid/Matron of Honor. She constantly is asking what I’m doing, where I’m looking (we’re looking at venues, we don’t have a date yet because we  want to find our venue and get a date from there and there have been other things going on that have prevented us from doing that until now) – I had told her what kind of wedding I was looking at and where looking and all of  a sudden it’s “oh we’re doing a tour there” or “thats where my mom wants us to get married” Now she doesn’t have a date or venue yet either – but I will also get the group texts to the BMS that “the wedding will be next june or next october and the colors etc and I want you to all wear toms” then a month later “ok we FINALLY picked a date – next june if we can find a venue if not then next october” etc etc. I just at this point just go with the flow when she talks about her wedding and do not share information on where we are looking. I figure right now mums the word until we pick our venue and put a deposit, then it’ll just be yup we found a place this is the date and go from there. I know it shouldn’t be a big deal, but with her being a very immature 19, it is my annoyance through this process. 

Post # 21
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Busy bee

FtrMrsStein15:  I’m so glad I’m not alone in this. I felt super bridezilla posting it. I’m not typically the “It’s my day!” person, but to be afraid to talk about my wedding plans with my MoH is a little ridiculous. She’s been a good friend since high school but I know how sensitive she is, so I’m afraid to say “Hey, can you put your wedding stuff away for awhile because mine is less than two weeks away and I really need your support.” because it may hurt her feelings. 

It bothered me most, though, a few months ago when she was staying at my house for a week specifically to help me with wedding stuff, and as I was slaving over handmade decor and addressing envelopes, she was on her computer looking up stuff for her wedding. What the heck, man? Oh well. 11 more days and the struggle shall be over! Hoping yours eases as time goes on and more things are settled for your big day. 

Post # 22
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Helper bee

ren89:  I’m not either but I totally get where you are coming from! It’s not that not excited for her or don’t want to share this experience with her, just the backhanded comments or comparing on her part or deciding to change things after I say what I want to do or downplaying my ideas is just a bit much! She even made backhanded comparison comments about my ring when I’d just been engaged a couple days! 

Ouch, I’m sorry she wasn’t more helpful! It does stink when you feel like you can’t talk about yours because of something with them – my Future Sister-In-Law is emotional and dramatic (and very immature) so I’m trying to handle it the best way I can – I haven’t fully figured that out yet. When I got the 4th text about their “date” (the one about june if venue if not then october) and shoes, I didn’t reply because I figured ok, good information, but really until you have a venue solidified you really don’t have a date – and better move as those are very popular months – but eh, things could change next week/month so ok, just going to accept it and go with it. Evidently not respinding with “omg yeah exciting” etc was a no-no because I got called out for it. Even though when did the other way before and had responded to a previous “ok we picked june next year” with “awesome – that mean picked a venue?” was a nono either 🙁 Can’t win. 

Well congrats on the 11 day countdown!! Enjoy your day and yes then this will all be over and can just enjoy being married!! I do hope once we both have venues and dates that things just settle, or at least once I have mine settled I can worry less and just ride her rollercoaster better lol 

Post # 23
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

Spelling/grammar mainly (if we are talking about what we come across online) –  SO MANY posters use ‘your’ instead of ‘you’re’, and I have seen one or two instances of ‘you’re’ being used instead of ‘your’. Ross says it better than I could:

Along with that – they’re/their/there, and so on.

As for IRL, it really annoys me when people (hi sister I am talking to you) disrespect other people and their belongings, and think that everything in the world is theirs to take and use. My sister is very good at taking things that don’t belong to her, and aren’t for general use and not returning them. I cannot wait to move out, although I am concerned about when she comes over or when FI’s sister comes over that both of them might help themselves to our stuff and not return it. FI’s sister helps herself to FI’s DVDs and doesn’t return them, unless he specifically asks repeatedly. Trouble is he won’t stand up to her and demand them back, so she basically gets away with it. In fact I think some of FI’s DVDs she left in a share house she previously lived in with her then boyfriend and didn’t bother getting them back, she probably assumes they were hers or her ex’s.

Man it feels good to write all that down!

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Doing all the work of the Maid/Matron of Honor without actually being the Maid/Matron of Honor.

People letting me know they’re bringing a +1 the night before the wedding, after they’ve said they aren’t bringing one. I was upset (but didn’t show it because it was a member of my husband’s extended family) because I had to leave the rehearsal dinner at my husband’s parents house to go to the hall and put a place setting and favour on that table…not to mention that +1 guest wasn’t on the seating chart! It still annoys me when I think about it, obviously haha. People are so clueless…

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