Post # 16
I don’t think I really believe in “The One”. But I knew our relationship had potential to last early on. We were actualy supposed to be a summer fling because we were both moving away at the end of summer. And I was not interested in a long distance relationship. But after a couple months I didn’t want to break up with him, so we did the unthinkable and entered into a three year long distance relationship. And it was hard but awesome. My mom go sick shortly after that and he was wonderfully supportive throughout her illness and death. Then we moved in together and didn’t killl each other or drive each other comletely nuts. But, even then, I wasn’t sure if I wanted kids and he knew he did, so I put off the engagement until I could figure it out.
So while I knew he had potential from early on, I didn’t really know, for sure, that we should get married until we’d been dating for 4.5 years. I let him know and we were engaged a week later. There’s a lot more to marriage than love and attraction. And that’s the stuff that takes some time to figure out. At least for me.
Post # 17
imanibee: I overanalyze everything, so typically I have fights with him in my head and then realize what a lunatic I’m acting like and just tell him I’m upset and why. I think yours is the better method!
Post # 18
cbgmtx: Hahaha thanks! Your method is good too. At least you’re not doing that out loud lol.
Post # 19
On our first date, my Fiance got drunk and basically told me he wants to be together forever. He even went into detail about his plans for our future retirement. Even though I knew he was (more than) a bit intoxicated, it really took me by surprise because I had been the one chasing HIM for months. Anyway, it wasn’t all peaches and cream from that moment on – we still had life stuff to figure out and a lot of getting to know each other to do – but we were engaged 8 months later.
Post # 20
JenGirl: Neither of us believes in soulmates, either, but I do think we’re a better match for each other than we’d be for anyone else which is its own kind of a je ne said quoi factor. With some people, romantic or platonic, you’re just more willing to put in the effort and work it out. It’s great that you’ve both been willing to work and build your relationship; it’ll make for a great foundation in marriage.
Post # 21
cbgmtx: Fiance and I are high school sweethearts.
We actually met when we both went on a school trip to Germany. I thought he and his group of friends were the dumbest and most annoying group of guys ever. The year after that he sat behind me in band and continually dropped music on my head. He also sat behind me in German class and almost got me my first ever detention because he kept talking to me and I kept talking back. He also became the girl’s tennis team manager (I was on the team) and half the team thought he was cute. I was undecided. After continual flirtation in class, that opinion changed, lol. He’s an intelligent guy! He asked me out to prom. I said no, because of some silly reasoning (a different guy – one of his friends – had asked me and I said no, I wasn’t going…high school reasoning, oi). He asked again, and I said yes. A week after prom, he asked me out.
We went to different colleges a couple hours apart (with no car). I did get a ton of crap my first year of college for having a long distance boyfriend. I realized he was the one when my friends and I had a discussion about what we’d do after college, and I honestly couldn’t think of a scenario without him in it.
Six years later, we’ll be married. 🙂 I know it’s a huge cliche, but I can honestly say I love him more each day. Goofy faces, silly songs, and all.
Post # 22
fionalouise: Hahah, I love it. That’s almost as bad as me getting drunk on our second date and telling my Fiance that I’d totally thought I’d be married with kids by that age. At least he was warned up front about my ticking biological clock!
Post # 23
gillykat824: I love high school sweetheart stories, they’re always so cute!
Post # 24
I met my SO through a popular website (reddit/imgur) where we both commented on the same image/thread. I made a remark about his username, he was surprised I knew what it was referring to and ended up PMing me. A few messages later we were talking on the phone… for 20hrs! Writing it out now it’s crazy how just one little thing became one of the biggest life changing moments.
I knew he was the one after that first phone call and he says the same thing. I didn’t ever want to stop talking- and I’m not usually a phone person. Or a talker in general. But it was just so easy to talk about absolutely everything with him. We finally had to sleep (fell asleep on the phone together) but right when he woke up he texted me again and that led to more calls, meet ups, moving in together, haha. It was all a whirlwind (but having a LDR for almost a year sucked!) He’s the only person that I’ve never got tired of being around, needed “me time” from, or ran out of things to talk to. He’s also the only person I’ve ever “turned to” through crisies. Noramlly I shut down, push everyone away, and fix it all on my own. But he knows exactly what to say and do to make everything go from terrible, horrible, just can’t take it any more! to solved and easy. There’s no doubt in my mind he’s the one 🙂
Post # 25
- Wedding: June 2015 - Stanley Historic Space, Lee\'s Summit, MO
My fiance and I knew each other as very casual acquaintances for a few years before we started dating; he and I went to the same karaoke bar and attended Renaissance festivals together. Last year, he came to my birthday party; he actually helped me carry my presents to the car and gave me the flowers a friend had given me. I remember thinking how awesome it would be if I had a boyfriend who would give me flowers for real that night! After that night, we started talking online and he admitted he’d been wanting to ask me out for a few months. I agreed to give it a shot, as he was handsome and sweet and we had so much in common. Talking every night on Facebook led us to becoming best friends, and eventually he asked me out and our feelings began to grow. I realized I loved him a couple months in, and our first kiss happened in a casino parking lot. But the moment I knew for sure he was the one happened about seven months in.
My job outsourced my position, and I was let go. Devastated, I texted my fiance and asked him to meet me as I left my former workplace. The moment I saw him and he wrapped me in his arms, the frustration, stress, sadness, and fear from the day all receded into the background. His love and support made one of the worst days of my life bearable…and that’s when I knew I was in it for the long haul.
The weekend of our one-year anniversary we went to his cousin’s wedding, and that led to us talking about weddings and marriage. I was shocked and overwhelmed when just a week later, he gave me a Pandora bracelet engagement charm and asked me to he his forever! But the past year and a half have been the happiest of my life; my fiance is my best friend and my life is so much better for having him in it. We haven’t even had a real fight since we started dating!
Post # 26
I met my Fiance in college in 2003. I went to meet my friend at a horror movie club run by some creepy kid in his dorm (we did silly things in colege, didn’t we?) I walked in and the cheesiet movie was playing, so I was kind of riffing on it. He heard me and immediately wanted to meet me. We started hanging out as friends, but he was seriously in love with me. Evbryone else knew, but I was kind of oblivious. I thought he maight have liked me, but he never said anything so I didn’t bring it up. We lost touch after he graduated college and was dating a girl none of us liked.
We remet at a mututal friend’s wedding. We started talking every once in a while, then weekly, then daily and it was the highlight of my day (and his). We started dating and he went to Maine with some friend a few months later. I missed him so much and it hit me: I love this man! I knew I wanted to be with him forever.
Post # 27
Darling Husband and I met in college. I was in my junior year, and he was a senior. He picked me up at a football game — LOL. I had gone with some friends from my dorm, and he was also friends with one of those girls. He and I had never met before, though. He came over to our seats to ask my friend to go out with him, but she wasn’t around. So he and I started talking. Eventually, he asked me if I wanted to go out with the rest of his group of friends that evening. I’m a very shy person, and, to this day, I still don’t know why in the world I said yes. But I did.
We went out to dinner, then kicker dancing (we’re originally from Texas — lol). While we were at the dance hall, the whole group decided to play pool. But I couldn’t get the little chalk cube to work properly to chalk my hands. Darling Husband walked over, grinned at me, and bumped my hand with his to give me some of his chalk. It’s such a silly little thing, but, in that moment, I knew he was the man I was going to marry. It was just so comfortable and easy — like we had known each other forever. We pretty much closed the dance hall down, then went to another place, then ended up getting breakfast together at around 3 or 4 AM. I think I snuck back into the dorm around 6 — ha, ha!
That was all on a Saturday. The next day, Sunday, he called me around noon to ask if I wanted to have lunch with him. And we have been together ever since — 24 years, altogether. Through disagreements, and long distance, and his mother hating me, and trying for years to have a child, which was frustrating and heartbreaking. We aren’t the silly kids we once were, that’s for sure. But he’s still my best friend. And the best man I know, even when he makes me crazy!
Post # 28
cbgmtx: Ironically, his hair got darker as he got older and is more of a dark blonde/auburn combination. His beard and mustache are still red though! We are currently planning to live a child-free life. We still have a lot of time yet, and we’d like to have a least 5 solid years of marriage before deciding on kids. Although they’ll probably have my curls and his original hair color, which I won’t lie, would be absolutely adorable 😛
Post # 29
I met Fiance in high school through mutual friends. I was actually very close friends with his best friend at first, and had a small crush on future Fiance at the time, but he had a gf : ( So fast-forward a year later, it was his last year of high school, and he invited me to his prom (suggestion of his best friend aha). I actually didn’t like him anymore at the time because I was convinced he was still with his gf. I still said yes cause I was a year younger and I’d get to hang out with him and other friends I knew from my jazz band. Plus, that meant I’d get 2 proms yeays!
We actually “fell in love” in front of my house, when he brought me back after prom… I realized he was going to college and I wouldn’t see him anymore at school, and I guess my heart told me I couldn’t let him go just like that! He says he felt the same at the time… Well I didn’t say anything cause I was way too shy aha. The next day, I cried all day that nothing happened between us that night and that I would never see him again aha, that I missed my chance xD (I was 15 at the time, could explain the whole drama-hormones situation)
I was lucky enough that he called me back 2 days later to invite me to his after prom with his friends, which was an awesome camping trip! And well, needless to say we were going out a week later! : ) So basically I guess I knew since day 1 that he was the “one”… He has been my one and only and after 8 years together including 1 year of LDR, we are still together!! I guess I was right 😉
Post # 30
I met my husband in college. He thought I was a huge bitch bc I kicked everyone out of my Halloween party so I could go to a different party. I officially remember meeting him when we stayed in the same house during spring break (we had the same group of friends and it was a huge house). I remember him walking in a room and the light hit him the right way and I was like daaammmmnnn. I don’t think there was ever a moment where I thought “he’s the one”. Honestly, we met over spring break…so I would have never believed we would still be together (and married!) 7.5 years later. After we left school we just moved to another state together, moved in, and eventually got engaged.