(Closed) The One with the Expensive Wedding?

posted 5 years ago in Money
Post # 3
3210 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

And here I thought $40k was on the low end. Don’t let your friends get you down, and try to ignore their criticism. Chances are that once they attend your lovely wedding and see how YOU it is, they’ll understand.

Post # 4
130 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Woah! Can’t believe you’re hearing it about your budget! Do what you want… spend what you can afford, it’s YOUR money! Just FYI.. in my group of friends, a $40,000 is on the lower end of what couples are spending. I think it differs with regions. I know that where I grew up, most of the weddings are in halls or backyards and those people would have a heart attack if they knew our actual budget! 




Post # 5
192 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@SomeoneBeautiful:  why does your bridal party know your budget? That would be considered very rude in my circle. 

Post # 6
381 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

our wedding was about 40k. we own a house and have good jobs. its the wedding i always wanted and it was perfect, dont let anyone get you down. its your day!

Post # 7
9691 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Mine isn’t near as big as yours and it’s still under the “average” spent for weddings at about $21-$22k  I could easily spend $30-$40k if I was able to!  But I don’t know why people would give you shit about it.  More power to you!  Hell if you’re doing it in NYC that won’t go near as far there as it would here (or in the South!).

Post # 8
3769 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

Our budget was originally $30, now it’s pushing (probably has exceeded… we’re not great at keeping track) $40 😉  I know a LOT of our friends would not nor have the means to spend that much on a wedding, but Fiance and I both agree that this is one of the biggest events/parties of our lives so it’s worth spending the money, plus we can comfortably spend it.  I haven’t gotten a lot of (or any) criticism because I haven’t told anyone how much we are spending altogether, and I’ll probably keep it that way!!  It’s no one’s business but yours and your future husband’s!

Post # 9
668 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Yea, 40K is average in my area. I’m spending (or rather my parents) about 125K (without rings, honeymoon, etc.). None of their business.

Post # 10
7276 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Mine was $30,000 but we’re comfortable enough financially that I would have increased that if I found something that I wanted. I have uncomfortable moments where someone goes “omg so an so spent $25,000 on their wedding… Blah blah blah.” I don’t get why other people care, it’s not their wedding. I’ve always had a picture of what I wanted in my head. We are lucky enough to  have well paying jobs and parents who chipped in so we can afford to do what we want while still saving over 10% for our emergency fund and retirement.

I’m sorry that people are giving you crap. That is extremely rude. I’ve had to put up with snarky comments about others (because people don’t realize how much our budget is) but no one has the guts to say it to my face.


Post # 11
4031 posts
Honey bee

@toothfairy910:  +1 I have not discussed my budget with my bridal party (except my sister who is the MOH). 

It is your money, your decision. But honestly, if you don’t talk about your budget, people cannot criticize it.

Post # 12
1251 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Just don’t discuss your budget or how much stuff is costing with them. And if they comment on choices you are making (‘gee, that venue would cost heaps of money’ etc) I would just reply and say ‘we actually found it quite reasonably priced in the end’ and leave it at that.  It’s none of their business what you are spending and rude of them to make these comments to you.


40k where I am from is a decent amount of money for a wedding but not unusual if you are having quite a few guests and all the trimmings etc.


Post # 13
2055 posts
Buzzing bee

There are plenty of us out there. A $40k wedding where I live and in my social circle is the rustic/burlap/lace wedding (rustic does not automatically equal inexpensive). So, don’t let your friends get you down about doing a wedding your way. Point them to the show “Platinum Weddings,” and remind them that the spending could be much worse. 

And remind them that your budget is none of their business. 

Post # 14
10 posts
  • Wedding: August 2013

Get what you want girl! You can afford it so go for it. I am like you. I don’t want a 5,000 dollars vintage burlap mason jar farm flowers wedding :(. We are heading for 45k here. and we don’t have a budget. it’s just that what we want amounts to 45K (and we got 2 professional photograhers and DJ for free because they were friends!. So real cost is more like 50 and over.)  let’s just hope I will not find anything else that I like before the wedding. Smile 102 days to go!!! 

Post # 15
2239 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Spend what you want — it’s y’alls money.  Don’t let them get you down.  

Post # 16
3229 posts
Sugar bee

Why are you discussing budgets anyway?

Most of the Southern weddings I’ve been to were country club weddings – we do have those in the South – or ones with no sort of a rustic vibe to them, just saying.

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