(Closed) The One with the Expensive Wedding?posted 9 years ago in Money
- 9 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
@sharontobemarried: “I dont have a budget. My prediction for total wedding cost is 70-80 odd grand. I have about 500 people invited.”
This is exactly why calling someone’s wedding “expensive” is dumb in the first place. My wedding will be about $12k… but we’re having 20 people. Is mine more expensive than yours? It doesn’t matter and no one cares.
- 9 years ago
- Wedding: November 2013
Fiance and I are in the same boat. We have a large budget. Well we actually kind of don’t have a budget TBH. We’re looking at spending around $45,000-$50,000. Rather than really having a budget for the whole wedding though we’ve determined what we’re willing to spend on certain things, like X for flowers, Y for my dress, Z for booze, and there’s a few things that if we go over budget on them we’re fine (booze is the big one, we’re doing an open bar and if our guests drink double what we “budgeted” for, we’re fine with that).
One of FI’s friends in particular I actually flat out refuse to discuss anything wedding related because the second I answer any of her questions she’s all “Why would you do that it’s sooo expensive!” Like when she asked what venues we were considering she spent like 15 minutes bashing each one of them (her main problem being she ‘knows’ they’re going to cost a lot) and concluded by telling me we should use the venue SHE used because they were cheap. Most of her suggestions too she prefaces by saying “Well vendor X wasn’t GREAT, BUT they were CHEAP! You should totally use them!” And for the record, no one knows our budget other than Fiance, myself and my mom. FI’s friend is just assuming how much we’re going to spend based on our vendors (again I won’t even talk weddings with her anymore because of it). She’s actually not even accurate 1/2 the time, assuming that the venue we chose is one of the most expensive ones in the city. Of the 5 we actually visited it was in the middle, and way less than some of the venues we looked at online and decided we didn’t want to use (for ex: average dinner at our venue is around 60$/person for a 4 course meal, the one venue we were considering before we saw their prices, their CHEAPEST meal was $120/person for 3 courses).
Fortunately I have one friend who is all “It’s your wedding, if you want the $800 designer shoes you’ve had your eye on for months, BUY THEM! You only get married once and you can afford it!” While I’m the one who’s all “Ugh I REALLY like them and would wear them a lot after the wedding but $800 is a lot for shoes.” I love her and could talk weddings with her all day long
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