interchangeable: <br />Thank you for your concern about our guests and what we are coming off like. We really only expect 300 ish for the wedding and 300ish for the engagment party. Two different events equally 600….so it isn’t as huge as it sounds….this place is use to holding BIG weddings all the time. 300 to them isn’t big. I get that it is big for others. If we do have to expand we will and they are prepared for it…its why we picked the venue.
But you are righ tno one should feel like they are being invovled in a cattle call event…and anything that suggest such a feeling is the opposite of anything I would ever want. None of these people were invited just cause…they were invited because we like them…they like us…we are excited to have them be part of our wedding weekend. Anything I could do to help with your concerns? <br /><br />
– what happens if someone is in the cash bar line when their table is called for the buffet line? Presumably, they abandon drink in favor of food? They eat their meal with no beverage and start all over in the cash bar line-up when they’re done eating? We are passing a drink so they will have something while sitting and waiting…if they finish it before its their buffet release they will go get booze and can jump in line (I don’t feel like its that high stress. Should I?) <br /><br />
– you’ve said repeatedly that not enough food/people starving is your biggest no no. How will you control people going to the buffet for seconds before others have even had firsts? Will you have someone standing guard and keeping track somehow of who has eaten and who hasn’t? We do have staff to release and will be announcing 2nds will be avaialable after all tables have been released during the blessing of the meal time frame. Do you have a better suggestion? We do have staff that will be refilling and so on…people are welcome to have 2nds…the buffet is served for at least 2 hours if not more…gotta check out the sheet for exact info.
– even with a buffet, the number of staff required for clearing, bussing, keeping water pitchers full (which I presume you’ll have on the table so people don’t have to line up for a glass of water), manning the buffet line, kitchen staff, etc is quite large. Is that all covered in your venue cost?? Yep all included. Water will be brought to the table by staff in pitchers (and glasses will already be full on tables). This place is big opportation.
– people are going to get pretty upset at having to spend so much time in line-ups (for food and drinks) and will most likely order 2 or 3 drinks at a time when at the bar. Which will slow the bar line even further. Again, staffing for 600 cash bar is up there. I usually recommend 1 bartender per 150 guests and one barback per 3 bartenders (barback keeps all your supplies and coolers full: beer, liquor, ice, garnish, changing out pop and CO, bringing clean glasses from the back, etc etc) We aren’t expecting 600 to attend. They have a HUGE bar out in the lobby that could have several staff at…and it is included in what we are paying.
– are you sure the venue has agreed to hold all adjacent rooms until your final count?? Will they charge you some nominal fee if you don’t use them? I’ve never heard of a venue holding rooms *just in case* without some kind of compensation. What percentage are you allowing for *didn’t RSVP but showed up any way* in your venue capacity? Yep I have all the rooms in the building reserved for me during the day/evening. We are receiving both RSVP and verbally confirming with all our guests as we know things change. They aren’t holding the rooms just incaes we get big…I plan to hae solid wedding numbers early on as we need them to make plans about transportation between events and things like that.
– how on earth will you manage making the rounds of greeting and thanking all your guests personally? That’s one of the most important parts of a receptions, is *making the rounds*. We are doing a recieving line and I am a social butterfly…again though we aren’t expecting 600. 🙂
– the no-assigned-seating is super awkward and uncomfortable for people. No one knows where to go or what to do, it puts people in very awkward positions and just creates mass confusion. It is not a guest-friendly concept in the least. It is not doing them a favor by any means. This has been stated several times on this post and I am not ignoring it.
I just have so many uncomfortable feelings when I think of your entire scenario. You make it sound as though you are inviting all these people as a grand gesture to them, that you want everyone to feel invited and welcome, but what you are doing achieves the exact opposite. Nothing says *cattle* quite like *Bring your money and stand in really long line-ups for the most basic amenities. Also, I put waaaaaay more thought into what you gifts you could purchase for us than where you would be most comfortable sitting*.
I can see that you are really resistant to how this might come off but I’m telling you straight out. It comes off like *let’s see how many potential gift-givers we can cram in here for as little money as possible.*
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