Post # 32
by adding that layer of legality, it seems more binding and somehow more commitment. it is easier to walk away when you are not married in my opinion. and i want there to be something more to “us” than just sharing a roof.
Post # 33
From the day FH and I met we knew we wanted to get married. In our commitment to each other we both found our way back to religion and more and more a church ceremony has been becoming important to us.
FH is also older than me, and ill it’s important for legal reasons to marry.
Post # 34
We have been “just living together” for almost 7 years. We are very happy, but working in a hospital, I know just how important it is to be the official next of kin to your loved one.
Post # 35
On the flip side, why doesn’t everyone marry a roommate? Or why should a couple who isn’t married bother getting married when they can just live together?
My DH and I went from being a couple who were dating and living as roommates to a married couple. To me, the legal implications where important, as was the commitment and stating our love and commitment to each other to our friends and family.
Post # 36
@KallahinBaltimore: honestly I think that marriage is a step to show our commitment to each other—it isn’t necessary, but it’s definitely a nice milestone
Post # 37
- Wedding: December 2010 - Savannah, GA
DH and I lived together before we were married, but I think we both knew from the first date that we would end up getting married sooner or later.
I remember our co-workers making a big deal out of the fact that I moved in with him before we were married…one even said the “why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free” thing, to which I responded, “why should I buy the whole pig when I can get some sausage for free.” Of course, there were a lot of people at the Census Bureau who thought we were together just to cause trouble. After the Census was over, one of my former co-workers said “oh, you’re really going to get married?” Uh…duh…yes!
Personally, I don’t think I would have continued living with him if our intention hadn’t been to eventually get married. I’m someone who needs that permanent legal commitment. Without it, I would never feel the security in the relationship that I have now. There would always be that option to just cut and run if things got too tough.
However, moving in together before marriage was just practical on a lot of levels, and DH is a very practical man.
Post # 38
I made the MISTAKE of having a child w someone MORE FINANCIALLY SECURE than myself and we NEVER GOT MARRIED. To make a reeeally long story short, I am pretty much his HOSTAGE. 9 years of this. I am so lost.
Post # 39
I didn’t realise this till OH explained but what he said was so true. Marriage is not much of a commitment now that divorces are so easy. We will marry one day but only to be recognised as a couple. It really does bug me that legally we are single. Us getting married has nothing to do with commitment as we have been in a commited relationship for years, we have a house together, pets and have planned our life together.