(Closed) The overall picture

posted 6 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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5 posts
Newbee

@LaTortuga:  Many ways to cut back on costs. It’s like the saying goes, “you have to pick your battles”…..same thing here. If it is a life-long dream to have that __________, then do it, but if it’s a point that could be compromised, down-sized or done in a less expensive way, then do it. Friends can fill in so many places instead of hiring. Absolutely beautiful work is done every day in the home of a seamstress, a baker, a philanthropist, a photographer, a decorator, a dj, a dance teacher, etc. You get the idea. Make it yourself, DIY, search the internet. Good Luck. You will remember the essence, not the costs.

 

Post # 4
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3303 posts
Sugar bee

The majority of my wedding bills is coming from feeding everyone—- I have price researched from the time I got engaged and found a lot of deals – things that would have costed thousands are only costing me hundreds. I am quite content how my wedding bill is coming out.

Post # 5
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705 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 1993

When you start putting a price on each guest’s head, your guest list somehow starts to dwindle.  Only have those who are VERY important to you in attendance.  And I don’t think any of us can say that we have 200 people that fit that parameter, you know?

Post # 7
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705 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 1993

@LaTortuga:  You’re expecting people to tell you whether or not they’re coming to your wedding 8+ months before it actually happens?  Sister, prepare yourself for hunting down RSVPs.

Post # 9
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2965 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Honestly having ALL of my fam and friends there wasn’t at the top of Fiance and my priority list. We are keeping it approx 50. Photography and food are musts!!! We have decided to change the date, move it up to this Nov, and just have it at my parents’ house by the lake. We have had to cut some things (videographer but seriously we weren’t going to watch the tape, limo, and perhaps real flowers).

Post # 10
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2616 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

i am a planner too i sent my invites out in january… i got 26 days ti the dealine and i have 92 people to track down out of 243. so yes sending invites out that early may cause u to have to work for the responses, people loose them, throw them away, dog eats it ect…  we are doing okay with our budget.. feeding people is the big thing- we got price knocked down to 35 a head. not included drinks…

Post # 11
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8511 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@LaTortuga:  You have 150 people that are just parents, grandparents, brothers and sisters and aunts and uncles- sorry but I find that really really hard to imagine!

Parents- 4 at a minmum- 8 at the most if divorce is involved

Grndparents- again 4 minimum- 8 at most if divorces involved

That would mean that you would have 142/134 brothers and sisters and aunts and uncles? Sorry but I think you should recheck your count! 150 family members including married cousins I could maybe imagine but not without cousins!

Post # 13
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1866 posts
Buzzing bee

“So it seems like it all adds up. I thought I could have almost anything and would come no where close to my budget but as it starts to add up im surprised how much all this can cost. Has anyone else been disappointed or shocked by the ticket price? How are you making your budget work? I have what I still feel is a large budget (5#s) but with 200 guests it seems to go quick. Its disappointing to me to have to worry about the cost over the meaning of the wedding.”

Wedding prices are insane.  We just had to increase our budget! Originally we were at 50k, and now we’re at 60k.  It’s insane.

I don’t think sending your invites that far out is a good idea.  It’s a little pointless b/c I think the majority of people (unlike brides!) are not super organized and will put the invite aside thinking they have plenty of time to respond, and then lose it.  

Post # 14
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1866 posts
Buzzing bee

@LaTortuga:  Can you push your wedding date back so you have more time to save up?

Post # 15
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1030 posts
Bumble bee

@j_jaye:  I have 6 people in my family – but my guy has 70 in his. as hard as it sounds, it really is true – and really shocking to me.

his maternal grandmother has 5 siblings and all of them have 4/5 children. his mother has 4 sisters and one brother, each of them having 4-6 children. his dad has 2 sisters and a brother, and they all have 3 kids each – and some of their kids have kids!

his mother’s family are the closest, and they all get together ALL the time – great aunts and all. i have never seen anything like it before, but these huge families really do exist.

Post # 16
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2616 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@lookingglass:  i know they exist… fiances dad side alone– we break it up by generation. lol. there are 3 brothers plus fil- and everyone is married- so thats 8 people. (g2)then the cousins-(g3)- fiance is number 11– and he is the last to be married- so thats 20 people. and everyone has kids– grandkids-(g 4)there is 30 and counting… his mom side is not as bad– mil plus 3 siblings (everyone is divorce) there is 10 cousins on that side and no one is married wirth children yet… my side– i am the baby of ten. (we are not inviting my half my siblings because we dont get along. out my 9 siblings only 2 have said they are coming out of the 4 that were invited)

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