Post # 1
Is paranoia an emotion? Lol wasn’t sure where to put this… Anyways!
So my wedding is coming up in just over 3 weeks (holy crap) and I’m starting to get really paranoid about things. My biggest random fear? That someone will break their leg before the wedding. It started because on Monday my Maid/Matron of Honor slipped on some water in her office building’s lobby and got a severe strain. Luckily it isn’t broken! She may be on crutches for our wedding though. We’ve also been getting these crazy ice storms and my Fiance has to walk outside 2 blocks between his parking garage and office– so now i’m paranoid he’ll fall and break something!
I don’t care about pictures at all– I just really want everyone to have a good time at our wedding! I’m worried if my Maid/Matron of Honor is still on crutches the day is going to be hard for her in terms of getting around and dancing. If Fiance or I broke something between now and then it would put a serious crimp in our style! lol. So yea… totally paranoid now.
I’m also mildly paranoid one of us will get really sick before the wedding. I had a good friend get married last year whose Fiance was almost knocking on death’s door the day of their wedding. He was high from all the meds, couldn’t stand long enough to dance, and ducked out of the reception early to go to bed. I felt so bad for her!
Not to mention my fear of bad weather preventing people from getting to our wedding!
I know none of these are things I have any control over and I’m not like sitting in a corner with a blanket over my head or anything…. but I’m definitely spending an inordinate amount of time thinking about freak accidents this week lol.
What were your wedding-month fears?
Post # 3
Irrational fears happen. It’s just admitting that you have them so you can move past them. Good luck! Mine was rain because we didn’t rent any tents.
Post # 4
@CorgiTales: I’m paranoid about getting sick or having bad weather too. My mom actually broke her heel around New Year’s though and will still be in a cast for the wedding. Luckily we aren’t doing a dancing type reception but we’ll still have to get her place to place okay. I think I’m mostly worried about bad weather or one of the two of us breaking something/getting sick. A girl I work with broke her ring finger back in September and she talked about how awful it’d be if she was supposed to get married soon so I really don’t want that to happen.
Post # 5
Breathe. In through your nose. Out through you mouth. Again.
It’s going to be fine. Your wedding is going to be perfect.
Do you think that my officiant may decide not to show up? He hasn’t RSVPd yet.
Post # 6
as long as you, fi, and the officiant are there, all will be well!
i’m totally prone to paranoia/anxiety too, so i understand. keep reminding yourself that everything will work out!
if it does snow, you will have the opportunity for some GORGEOUS pictures!
Post # 7
Ha. I think crazy ice storms can bring out those fears in anyone!
Post # 8
It’s part of the build up, I think. I freaked out a bunch. Stay busy! And drink some wine 🙂
Post # 9
@CorgiTales: Deep breath. Dont worry – things will be fine! My biggest wedding fear was having diarrhea on the morning of. I have no idea why I had this fear but I was so scared it was going to happen that I came prepared with Immodium and Pepto!! Well it was just an irrational fear and everything was fine! You’re right that you have no control over these things and thats probably why they are creeping into your mind right now. Probably all of (or most of) the things that you do have control over are already done so now that you dont have those things to worry about you are finding something else to worry about. Just try to remember that no matter what you will be marrying your husband and that things going wrong are inevitable, but theyre usually not that bad 🙂
Post # 10
Order these! THey slip over your shoes and provide traction on ice. They had them at Target for a while, but I suspect they are only available online now.
I can relate about the anxieties! It helps to talk about them!
Post # 11
@CorgiTales: I really didn’t have a definition of what would happen, but I had this strange feeling like something would go wrong and we wouldn’t be able to get married at all. It was so irrational. Once you get to the last week, it will fly by, you won’t have time to think about all the other stuff (hopefully). All the best!
Post # 12
@PitBulLover: Oh my gosh, you made me laugh out loud!! One can never be too careful 🙂
Post # 13
if it makes you feel better, that’s a totally rational paranoia at least since it actually is icy! my main paranoia before our wedding was completely ludicrous and insane– i have a totally weird fear of skin turning bizarre colors, like in a sci fi or horror movie, and about a week before the wedding i had a dream that i suddenly had a weird medical condition that caused purple lines to appear on my face, and kept being afraid that it was actually happening. i can’t tell you how many times i asked my husband or mom if my face was purple…totally ridiculous.
just take deep breaths and try and relax about the things you can’t control!
Post # 14
@nmsoonerbride: lol! I am SURE that he is planning to come. He probably feels like he’s a given so he doesn’t have to RSVP? one of my BMs didn’t rsvp but I counted her in bc she sure as hell better be there! 🙂 (I might give him a call just to verify though… hah)
@ejs4y8: good call on the wine. It’s 10:05 am here. Too early? 😉
@PitBulLover: oh wow that is such a specific (and kind of funny) fear! Glad everything worked out for you! I did spend about a minute worrying I’d feel sick or “off” on my wedding day due to an abnormal eating schedule but I just decided to make an effort to do my “normal” stuff the day before and day of. Which means my normal breakfast and coffee, normal lunch, etc. Hopefully it’ll keep my stomach calm.
Post # 15
@deetroitwhat: Lol Im crazy 🙂
@finnaroo: oh my goodness this may be more ridiculous than my irrational fear!