(Closed) The perfect age..?

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

You two are not that young and it seems that you got your life under control. You havn’t been together very long but you say you two love each very much and seem to be fully dedicated to one another.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

People can pass judgement and be negative about marriage for many reasons regardless of age, it’s how you handle it that’s more important. You sound like you are grounded and know exactly what you want and you shouldn’t let others opinions impact on this exciting time in your life! That being said, I personally don’t think you are too young (I was just 24 when I married). Good luck ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

People are going to have opinions on everything you do in your life. There’s no way you can please them all, so it’s best to just ask one another “are we ready?” and then set your mind to it and follow through. Someone will ALWAYS have something to say.

 

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

No, you’re not too young.

Regarding the “perfect age” thing… I am 22 and SO is 33 (and also from Hertfordshire).  Neither of us have been married before.  The right age is different for each individual.  We’re not engaged yet (we wanted for me to get a stable job after graduation etc) but for me early to mid twenties is the right age.  For SO it’s mid thirties.

Post # 8
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2011 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Definately not too young. I was in a similar situation to you. Met Fiance 18 months ago, moved in with him after 3 months, got engaged after 1 yr. Everyone was telling us we were moving way too quickly but once you know, you know.

You two have been living with eachother you know each other very well. infact probably better than alot of people who are engaged but dont live with eachother. You know you are compatible. Dont worry about what everyone else may think. Its your life-live it the way you want to.

 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper

While I don’t personally think that you’re too young, I think needing to ask IF you are too young  shows that either a) you yourself feel too young or b) you care way too much about others opinions. You’re definitely old enough to make your own decisions— so make them and own them!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

You seem mature and responsible.  In addition, you will be engaged for two years which gives you both time to get to know each other better and time for everyone else important in your life to get to know you guys as a couple.

Personally, I think you two will be fine.  Good luck!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I agree with other posters that it’s more about maturity level and your confidence in your relationship than about the numbers on your license. That being said, if you find yourself saying “I’m not ready now, but I’ll be ready in two years when the wedding actually happens,” I think that’s a red flag. For me, getting engaged should mean that you are ready to be married now (in theory).

I have several friends in vanity engagements (engaged for several years without making any wedding plans, just because they like the feel of being engaged and think it gives their relationships validity), and that doesn’t sound like what you’re talking about here, but I definitely think you need to be 100% sure before you get engaged, not assume there will be time to decide after you’ve got a ring.

P.S. I am currently 22, and my fiance is 24. We will be 23 and 25 when we tie the knot. We haven’t gotten age comments so much as “We knew you two would end up married!” When you’re confident in your choice, your loved ones will be, too.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I think feeling young has to do with what stage you are in your life. Some days I feel really young when I bum around my parents house in PJ’s and eat and watch TV all day lol Other days when my SO and I are spending a weekend away and we do all the shopping, cooking, and cleaning together I feel all grown up lol 

It sounds like the 2 of you are at a point where you can take care of each other, and I think it’s smart that you want to be engaged for a while to save money and just prepare. Any time I think I’m too young (I’m 23) I remind myself that my mother was 19 when she got married, and 20 when she had me. So I definitley know my family won’t judge me for being young lol If anything I’m getting old haha 

But seriously, if you have all your ducks in order, I think you’re ready =]

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

The relationship honeymoon period generally lasts 6 months-2 years. Anthing past that means you’ve probably weathered a few fights and transitioned from exciting-new-love towards a more stable-lasting-love. But you’re talking about waiting until you’re 25? Sounds perfect. 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat

It seems to me that 26 is the perfect age. I have NEVER gotten “oh, but you’re so young!” I think 25-26 is the age where people realize that you’re grown up and ready.

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