Post # 1
I know we’re still a ways off, but a hair style is the ONE thing I cannot make my mind up on. When I asked the ManCandy, it went something like this:
Me: “what should I do with my hair?”
Him: “whatever you like. I’d love it down or half up, but I know whatever you decide will look great.”
Me: “ok, then I want pink in it.”
What happened to “whatever-you-like-baby“? You’re already marrying the bridal industry equivalent of a circus freak, what’s a little pink hair added into the mix?
My dress, with pink:
I want a light, all-over pink color (not these colors exactly, this is just to give you an idea)
But, since we’re adults, I’m willing to offer a compromise:
Does that seem fair? It’s his day too, but I’d really like to try this out and see how it looks with my dress…and when I like it I don’t want there to be a tiff. My day, too.
How can I persuade him?
ETA: there *will* be pink in my hair, that isnt up for debate. It’s just a matter of how much and what color. He seems to like the ombre compromise, but *I’m* not sold on it :-/
Post # 3
Just do it. I highly doubt he is going to be upset on your wedding day that your hair is pink. Or just dye it pink now and let him get used to the idea. I would wear it pink for awhile and make sure he likes it.
Post # 4
@Birdee106: That’s what I was thinking too: try it out way before hand to desensitize him to the idea.
What’s funny to me is he’s totally fine with me dying my bottom half blue…but a little pink on the wedding day is an issue?
My colorist is actually his friend of about 20 years…and I think I might be able to get him to convince BF to be open minded.
Post # 6
I love the idea of a pink underlayer at the bottom. How about just having it done now and seeing what the effect is on your FI? If he has conniptions (not that he has the right to have them, imho!) then you’ve plenty of time to revert to your usual colour.
Post # 7
@badabing88: i love it, just make sure it doesn’t clash with your dress (which is awesome btw!)
Post # 8
@badabing88: Honestly, I wouldn’t. I know you aren’t exactly a traditional girl but maybe when you’re 50, you won’t want to look back on wedding pictures with pink hair. You’ve spent enough money on that hair of yours and it looks great as is (since my original vote of keeping it that lovely black didn’t come through :P).
Also, I am an advocate of looking beatiful in his eyes. You chose the dress with him and I know his opinion matters to you or you wouldn’t have asked. Sure, you can “convince” him but his gut reaction was no, and just because he gives in doesn’t mean he will like it. When you walk down that sandy beach, you want him thinking how amazing you look, not that he wishes your hair wasn’t pink.
Post # 9
@Steampunkbride: See, that’s just it: my compromise is kind of my way of saying “i’m NOT going back down on this.” :-/ His alot more ‘normal’ than me and has claimed to always love my kooky get-ups…so I guess I’m a little frustrated he actually thought that one this one day I’d suddenly play things safe. I’m definitely going to just do it this summer and I’d be anything he sees it makes me happy and to embrace it.
@CarpefnDiem: I texted him it and he said it was “very pretty”…I just feel like I really want the full head :-/
Post # 10
@TwoStatesBride: Thank you 🙂 I’m being one of “those girls” and getting a 2nd, shorter dress to avoid sweating my ass off, and the one i’m 99.9% sold on is ALL pink. 🙂
@MrsPanda99: ugggh that’s what I’m having a hard time with: you *know* i’m all about him liking what I do…but I’m wondering if this won’t turn out like my hand tattoos: at first, he did NOT want me doing it….but now he compliments them almost daily. I think the ideas I come up with scare him in his little yuppie man head, but when he sees them in action he ends up liking it :-p
Post # 11
@badabing88: Think about it before you make a decision. This is a special day and just because he likes your kooky get-ups sometimes doesn’t mean he would like it on your wedding day. Just sayin’! 🙂
However, instead of the full pink that matches the dress (might look too much like cotton candy) how about darker pink highlights, for contrast?
I adore your dress, btw.
Post # 12
@Sunfire: Thank you 🙂 I really want to post pics of the second one after I buy it 😡 It’s wild.
I just have a vision…and my vision includes my hair with at least SOME pink in it to go with dress. He said the ombre pink is “really pretty”, so I know I can at least swing *that*…I just feel like I’m caving in :-/
Post # 13
@badabing88: Sometimes men just take the path of least resistance. It’s not like you can erase your hand tattoos so rather than argue with you about them or make you feel bad, he just tells you he likes them (or maybe he really does). Either way, agreeing to avoid a fight and agreeing because you want to are two very different things.
You will have the rest of your life to do your hair however you want. On this day, as lame as it sounds, you want to look like his princess 🙂
Post # 14
@badabing88: Awww, you wouldn’t be caving, don’t think of it that way. It’s his wedding, too, right? Is he wearing something of which you approve? 😉 (hehe)
Post # 15
@badabing88: If anyone can pull it off you can! It is all about compromise thou so maybe more subtle like this maybe?
Have you heard of hair chalk? You could try it out for a few days and let the FI see how he likes it!
Post # 16
I love your hair as is!! It’s so pretty and the contrast stands out with your dress:) more makeup choices too! If anything I’d get little clip ins so you don’t have to bleach the darker part of your hair. It’s long and gorgeous! Why ruin it ;)?