(Closed) The Plague of Self-Inviters

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
687 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@shaykitteh:  this is great!  My invites just went out this week… but people were trying to invite themselves since before we got engaged!  My Fiance and I just try to remember that this is for us!  Our familes are coming around.  FI comes from a very large extended family as well.  Best of luck with your wedding 🙂  You sound like you’re right on track!

Post # 5
4 posts
  • Wedding: April 2013

YES this! I keep finding myself getting angry (of course on the inside lol) at people who assume they are coming or say that someone else should be invited – if I haven’t talked to you in years and years, why would I pay for your dinner and unlimited drinks at the most important day of my life? And no, your children can’t come! 

Sorry, I feel like I sound a little crazy, but I can’t imagine people who you aren’t close with trying to make you feel bad over not being invited to a very expensive and important occasion that should be all about who the couple wants to share it with. Not who is “supposed” to be invited. 

Post # 6
504 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Can you make this a pin so I can pinterest the crap out of this to everyone. Seriously so level headed and mature. May I please be that way when my invites must go out…

Post # 7
1397 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Thanks for this- it’s a good reminder. We’re having a small, 30-person wedding with family and a handful of very close friends… but people have been hint-dropping and flat-out demanding invites since day 1! My favorites have been the co-workers who never invite me out with them, a cousin I haven’t seen or spoken to in almost a decade (she didn’t even know I was in another country or that I had a boyfriend), and someone I went to high school with, had a falling out with, and then didn’t talk to for almost a decade. What the hell is wrong with people?


Best of luck with your self inviters. Stay strong and calm!

Post # 9
650 posts
Busy bee

thanks this thread puts a lot of things in perspective

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