- 4 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
H and I have been together for almost 6 years, married for almost 2 years. Our parents have never met. Our sisters have never met. Sadly my dad died while we were engaged. How do I feel if they never get to meet? Well it’s kind of odd, but I don’t lose sleep over it. Would I regert them never meeting? I don’t know.
We’re in Utah, my mom is in the Midwest, and his parents are on the west coast.
His parents will be RVing back from a trip and were going to stop at our house for a few days. My mom has been trying to come out for a visit this year – but that is a drama mama story in itself. My mother is just so difficult and exhausting to deal with. She’s not very emotionally stable and forgets mean words she’s said to us kids calling us the crazy ones. I think she needs daily medication which she refuses to take daily (even though she admited she feels normal on her medications).
She and I just had a huge tense discussion about a trip I had planned for her – orignally I had her flying out at end of June with a 3 day road trip to Sun Valley, ID for her to see stuff. I am her only vacation provider. Any vacation she has been on has been because of me! Yellowstone, Zion, Bryce – I’ve taken here there, so I guess there is a subtle expectation.
I later found out I should probably go back to my home state instead to see my neices and nephews because I’ve allocated my vacations days already and I literally have none left so there are no visits back home planned otherwise. I either only see her out here, or I go to them and see them all. That last week in June is miraculously open for me too. I broke her the news. She was upset and hung up on me. She gets hurt so easily. She turned it into “Sienna doesn’t love me anymore! You’re too busy for me! I’ll never see you again!” UGH. Give me a break. Then she cried all day (my sister told me).
Immediately AFTER I broke the news and she hung up on me, I texter her an offer for her to come here for the weekend (well like Thrus-Mon) and we can play on a weekend IN MY TOWN, but she’d have to entertain herself while we’re at work as I literally have no vacations days left. That doesn’t seem good enough in her eyes. It’s just “staring at white walls” or “that’s a long way to go to do nothing.” We have a lot of nice stuff in my town! It really upsets me! I could not focus for the rest of the morning after this incident.
(Note we had a lot of huge drama from her about coming to our own wedding because it there wasn’t enough vacation stuff for her to do (or someone to tote her around) that warranted the trip to or state since I would be preoccupied with a wedding. Big time hurt.)
After a few days had passed, we learned about H’s parents coming through our town. So I said to my H last night, my mom could fly out when your parents are here and they could finally meet. Then he asked, “Do we really even want them to meet anymore?” GOOD QUESTION.
Ugh. I don’t know. Who knows what kind of drama my mom will create if she does meet them. Not even sure if I should make it happen! Mother-In-Law did say she would like to meet her. My mom asked after 6 years if she was ever going to meet H’s parents. So I guess they each have SOME interest? It’s up to us to make it happen (they’d never go meet each other on their own).
If they’d all be here, we’d sacrifice a trip we had planned to decideate it to the parents so there would be an extra vacation day or two in there.
- This topic was modified 3 years, 12 months ago by sienna76.