- 8 years ago
- Wedding: August 2011
Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about the pressure of what you should do at your wedding. As in you should have a cake to cut, you should have a bouquet, you should have a first dance, you should send out save the dates, you should wear white etc etc etc. Now most will argue with me that its your wedding and that you should (there is that word again) do what you want and what makes you happy. I agree, you should do what you want but how much of what you want comes from outside pressure or current trends. With so much to plan, the excitment, the stress do we ever really take a moment to really think about what we are doing and if its really something we want?
Let me eleborate, tonight I was designing our save the date cards and talking to my dad. He made a comment that he and my mom didn’t send save the dates and he wondered when couples started doing it. I was never really into save the dates but I was doing it because I thought thats just what you did. I never questioned if I really wanted save the dates or if I felt I needed them I just did them because I thought I was supposed to. I never once took a moment to think about why I was doing them.
How much of our weddings are things we just do because we think we should? How often do you really take the time to think about why you are doing something or if you are just doing it because its in a wedding magazine or on the bee or you had a friend that did so you assume thats just what you do?
Don’t get me wrong, sometimes we are aware of the pressure of should and still decide to make that decision. Like wearing white (or clost to white) just because Queen Victoria started a fashion trend at her wedding. Its the decisions we never quesitons that have me perplexed.
Here are some of the things I’ve just been accepting as things I should do but never asked myself why or if I wanted it. What are things you just did or are doing because you thought you should?
Save the Dates
Father/Daughter and Mother/Son dance
Someone to give you away