(Closed) The Pressure to Be Perfect…

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
556 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I went through this. I ended up not losing the weight. I actually gained a few pounds and had to get a new dress. And guess what? My day was perfect! I felt (and looked) beautiful, IMO. Don’t let a few silly pounds dictate your happiness now, or on your wedding day.

Post # 4
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8042 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@coolbride125:  Relax. I know it’s easier said than done, but you need to put things into perspective. Your wedding is a one day event. You’ll be harder on yourself than anyone else will. Everyone will be looking at the beaming bride… not noticing flaws or details that you do.

It’ll be ok. I am sure you know this, but please don’t starve yourself just to fit into your dress. Even if you do, you’ll be more upset when you gain the weight back after (like if you’re doing something unhealthy now – not saying you are). You’re beautiful as you are!!

Post # 5
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1333 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@coolbride125:  Im not a bride…yet, but I wanted to let you know that NO MATTER WHAT YOU WILL BE THE PERFECT BRIDE!!!  You could wear a knapsack the day of, and be the perfect bride.  Why?!  Because there is NOTHING that can/could take away from a bride’s glow on her wedding day.  All brides, at every wedding I have been too,  have been the most beautiful brides I have ever seen – perfect in every way, and I have been to a lot of weddings 🙂 

Post # 6
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170 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I feel this way to. I worry about how my arms will look and worry that I got the wrong style of dress, I want to lose weight by the wedding because i would hate to look at the pictures from that day and be criticizing how i look in every photo. I just want it to be perfect.

Post # 7
Member
6360 posts
Bee Keeper

Eh, Photoshop can make perfect any flaws that realy end up buggin’ Laughing

Post # 8
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6256 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

I am definitely feeling tihs way. But this is kind of how I feel about my whole life, honestly. It’s hard to know when the pressure I put on myself to be perfect in other realms ends and the pressure to be a perfect bride specifically begins. 🙁

I’ve been told I need to work on my “negative self-talk.”

Post # 9
Member
594 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@coolbride125:  I think trying to achive the image of perfection, in our minds, does more harm than good. I would sit down and understand that you are perfect with ot without the 16 lbs. The 16 lbs do not mean anything in your union with your love. You are perfect just the way you are. 

 

Post # 10
Member
664 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I am very very much feeling this pressure. 

I feel like I need to lose 10 lbs, and I can only see my flaws.  I have so many appointments for facials, hair, nails, personal trainer, etc in the next 50 days, it’s really crazy.  Everything I put into my mouth I am thinking about. 

I have this love/hate relationship with my dress which is totally stressing me out.

I have so much anxiety over looking perfect.  Fiance, my parents, his parents, everyone says “you are going to make a beautiful bride”, but I just don’t believe them.   I am seeing a therapist to help me with this anxiety, but I’m not sure if she is helping.  I am not sure how I am going to keep it together the day of the wedding.

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