(Closed) The "proposal" was going to be this weekend…my coworker got engaged yesterday.

posted 5 years ago in Proposals
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

why are you worried? it is your marriage, and you are merely coworkers. Enjoy your ring, you have a right to do so!

Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper

tatjanafaith:  Agreed. It’d be strange to change engagement plans because of a coworker. Sure, the timing isn’t ideal, but it’s something you and your SO have been planning and looking forward to. As long as you don’t blatantly try to outshine/overshadow the coworker, I think it’ll be fine. She can’t expect the world to be put on hold until her own engagement buzz dies down.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

theonlywayisorange:  Can we see the ring? You have nothing to worry about. This is so not an issue. Wear your ring proudly on Monday morning! Engaged coworker will probably be thrilled to have another bride to talk weddings with.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2019 - City, State

 

theonlywayisorange:  people are allowed to be engaged at the same time. And this is a coworker not a close friend, family member. I wouldn’t be giving this a second thought.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

theonlywayisorange:  I don’t think you should be worried about upstaging her. Embrace it as a moment where “Oh my goodness, we’re both engaged!! This is exciting!” If you plan on inviting coworkers to your wedding, this is a great opportunity to both be excited about wedding details, etc. But of course if you’re not inviting coworkers, I would just focus on the excitement phase and make sure to not get into lengthy wedding-planning convos.

Post # 8
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Busy bee

theonlywayisorange:  Perhaps this will give you something to bond over! Spin it like: “How cool is it that we are both engaged!”

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

If she feels upstaged, it is her fault and not yours.  You get to announce your engagment, have the oohs and awws, and then you get your wedding day.  Unless this person was a close family member (and I’m talking sister) and it happened the day before, don’t put your life plans on hold for other people. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper

theonlywayisorange:  This is silly enough when it’s sisters, cousins, best friends, etc. But when it’s a co-worker that you aren’t even close with, it is totally 100% a non-issue.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

 

theonlywayisorange:  

Have the engagement! Most engagements aren’t “planned” by both people anyways so its not like she could blame you for getting engaged. Wear the ring- you don’t have to walk around the office flashing it in peoples face…

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Do you think your co-worker would have put off announcing her engagement if you had yours first? No. Because that’s ridiculous. 

Literally, my thought when I read your post title was “so?”. You are way, way overthinking this.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA

It’s a total non-issue. Congrats on your (pending) engagement!

Post # 14
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

You’ve agreed to marry and you’re planning a wedding. Congrats, you are engaged and it sounds like you have been for a few weeks already!!! No reason not to wear your ring at this point.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Don’t put your plans on hold for anyone else. What if you “wait” and then a friend gets engaged next week? Are you going to put your engagement on hold indefinitely? Your co-worker gets a day and, to be quite honest, if someone else just happened to get engaged on the same day then she doesn’t even get that. You don’t have to make a big show of things, just start wearing your ring to work and if someone notices you can tell them the news. 

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