Post # 1
So I was thinking I have always wanted a big surprise, some romantic gesture and some amazing storey to tell people about my proposal. But the way it is unfolding is I know it’s coming, relatively when it’s coming, and I picked the ring. I feel a bit funny about it. My girl friends said i need to stop asking about it or getting involved but unfortunately I can’t help it, I’m a planner and we are the couple that tell eachother everything, and he especially wanted to tell me about his horrible experience at the jeweler to help him feel better about the snobby girl who was terrible at customer service. Anyway, I don’t know what he’s planning but, so that part will actually be a surprise.
So anyway my question out there to all the bees is did you have a hand in the engagement process, or was it a complete surprise?
And if it was a complete surprise how did it go?
Post # 3
no help at all. I knew we’d talked about marriage being something we both wanted and wanted to do soon. We’d talked about where (USA or Scotland) but nothing about a timeline or when or anything. We had one, 2 sentence conversation about rings in December and he proposed in August (he asked if I’d want something antique. I said yes. that was the whole conversation).
So total surprise and it was wonderful and fantastic 🙂
Post # 4
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
Totally knew it was coming, we’d looked at rings together (online) and then in October he told me “don’t go cleaning my closet because there’s a Xmas gift in there”
Yeah right, he doesn’t do his Xmas shopping until Dec 23 at the earliest…
Not that it wasn’t wonderful. I got to see the ring for the first time, the way he did it was adorable and I was kind of busy with other things so it was a suprise at that moment but I knew it was going to be coming by the end of that year.
Post # 5
Mine was a total surprise and it was perfect! I will never ever forget that feeling, and I’m pretty sure I’ll never get to feel that way again.
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2013 - B&B
Mine was a total surprise. We had sort of discussed marraige and sometimes I would drop hints as to what I wanted someday, but I honestly didn’t think he’d be proposing until sometime NOW (we got engaged Feb of 2012, and he graduated just this past december, and he has 6 months until his loans come through) so I was very surprised! And he did a better job with the ring than I think even I could have done 🙂 His proposal was very romantic and I loved every minute of it.
Everyone’s story is a little bit different, I think it’s so cute that he can’t wait to share his experience with you! Yes, it means you know its coming, but I don’t think it’s a bad thing at all!
Post # 7
we went ring shopping and purchased the ring together. it had to be ordered (like most e-rings) so i didn’t know when it was coming in. we were given an estimate of 8 weeks, give or take. we lived together so we made an agreement that after a certain amount of time went by, i would stop answering the phone/checking messages so i wouldn’t know when it was ready. one day i got home, and he wasn’t there (he’s always home before me). when he got home, he said his friend had wanted to go to REI so they went. i seriously had no idea and i should have because REI is right next to the jewelery mart (basically a mall of wholesale jewelers). he had been teasing me a lot before that though- faking like he had the ring and he was proposing so i think that’s why it didn’t even cross my mind. later, we were sitting watching tv and he said he had something for me. i jokingly said “oh my laundry quarters?” (he’d done laundry that day). he said “haha yeah” and took them out of his pocket and gave them to me. when i looked away to put them down, he took the ring box out of his pocket. i looked over and was in shock. i was like “no fucking way. that’s not really the ring. you’re messing with me!” but it really was the ring and he proposed and it was perfect. i didn’t want a public proposal. i wanted something simple between the 2 of us because that’s the kind of people we are.
Post # 8
I’m commenting here because I want to know how it feels afterwards if you’ve been involved. We decided together when we wanted to get engaged (this coming December) and he also wants me to go ring shopping.
I don’t mind one bit, I’m a big planner and so is he so planning this together makes sense, I’m just wondering how the proposal feels if you REALLY know it is coming?
He can’t shut up about it which is super cute, I’m glad he’s excited. I am too.
Post # 9
- Wedding: May 2014 - Muhlhauser Barn
I was caught of guard in the sense that I did not think there was any chance he would be proposing that night… we were out celebrating our friend’s 2 year anniversary, so I did not think that night was going to be about me at all.
I did know that he had bought the ring since we had picked it out together, & he was not good about being secretive about actually purchasing it at all, but I thought he was going to wait until around my birthday/Christmas to propose, so September 22nd was not expected at all!
Post # 10
Complete and total surprise!
Post # 11
Mine was a total surprise.
We had been trying to make plans to go to the Empire State Building. The last time we had gone into the city it was too windy and cold, so we planned for next time. A month or two later, we decided the weekend when his church had a breakfast after Mass would be a good day to go. I could meet some of his friends, and then we’d spend the day in the city.
Well, he decided that was a good day to propose to me! We had touched on marriage and knew it was something we both wanted, but it had not made any plans or discussed rings.
I was totally shocked.
Post # 12
A total surprise to me!! I had no idea at all!!!! Thought we were just going to the couples spa cause he told me he had a “coupon”to go there and I cant say no to a coupon!!!We had a couples facial and hot stone massage and at the end he went to get his wallet from the car to pay and came back with a HUGE bouquet of flowers and in it was a fake rose ring box with my ring in it! I was soo shocked I didnt even know what to do our say (I did say yes finally) He then organized a dinner with my parents and his parents at my faourite restaurant ti celebrate 🙂
Here is a pic of my flowers with the ring inside
Post # 13
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
I was caught off guard and so was he lololol. It was a surprise to both of us, he had something planned for the week after but just couldn’t wait
Post # 14
I pretty much knew mine was coming as I picked out the ring with him. He had waited a whole week after we bought it to propose but even then I had a feeling it would be the day he did it, I just wasn’t sure of the manner of which is was going to do it.
Post # 15
The first time he proposed was a complete surprise. It was Christmas Eve, and he had always said he’d never do it on a holiday, or for a special occassion. On top of that, however, we had just finished a very Too Much Information conversation about blowjobs/sperm/pearl necklaces, so to follow up with a proposal was just… weird, lol.
The second time he proposed (after a ‘separation’–we don’t really count it, as we continued dating–we just kind of took a step back), I had a feeling it was coming… I’d say 95% sure. We were heading out to his youngest brother’s graduation ball, and we’re all spiffed up… he had been lovey-dovey all afternoon (which isn’t his style)… I know something was up, but didn’t want to get my hopes up, just in case.
Post # 16
I knew he was going to propose because my sister blabbed but it was a total surprise. I didn’t think he’d propose so soon nor did I think he was ready.